"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ok...so here it is..
last fri. i ask a girls number from a friend..couldnt ask in person coz i wont be able to see her till monday....i also told my friend not to tell her that i asked for her number...

..so then i call her...no answer...so i guess....shes prbrbly sleeping or something..cz it was at around 11....

next day..i just left it...i diodnt wna seem desperate....PLUS i thought...well if u get a miss call..ude call them back..but with this girl...no.........so i call on sat. night...still no answer........THEN...i ask her other friend...if he knows whether she has her cell or not..coz shes not answerign.......my friend..txts her..and gets a message...so he tels me...its with her....and i should probly txt her first.and tell her its ME.......

a few hours later....i just decidd to call again...not really a fan of txting...

she finaly answers......and i call and ask for her in a funy way..i got pretty good laughs....then she asks who this is....
i say..take a wild guess...and SHE GUESSES It! she told me my friend eventually told her i was going to call......so i ask her out for lunch on monday..she goes..."im not sure..can i txt u later?" i go..yea sure.....aryt laters...

the next day...no text....then i tell her friend(gay) who happens to be my classmate what happnd..and see if he konws watsup....

then hes like..yea..she told me u called her yesterday....

then im like..well she didnt text back though.......

yea ..she said she forgot...


so now..im wondering...what the hell is that?? she forgot! and didnt even tell me !!.i ofcourse...not being THAT afc anymore....dont feel that bad....i know i can get more girls....3 of her friends hav ea crush on me....OHHH and i should metion..i was told by my friend..she too had a crush on me..(this was 2 weeks ago..i didnt really take it seriously...plus i had a gf then).....so now im confsued....wat should i do?? NEXT??? or give her a chance??? should i confront her???

till the day i asked her out..i havnt talkd to her yet.......again..i didnt wna seem desperate...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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hahah yea...dont worry dude im not faling into the afc trap..haha...the problem though is....3 of her friends arent exactly THE hottest creatures on earth....BUT dotn worry....im a recov. afc....so like all recov. afc's...we have back up..hahha...i have like 2 other numbers..didnt call yet though...

but more inputs could be nice.....i dont think she actually forgot..BUT i think shes jsut playing hard to get......
ohh and her gay..friend..i kinda trust him.....hes not he loud ****ty fag.....hes cool and i trust him plus he was on my side..but i duno..she could be tricking me..but i highly doubt it....i think shes jsut playing hard to get.....so how do i deal with this??? or should i not deal with it at all
 
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You say you’re not an AFC yet you call her three times WITH NUMBER SENDING ON no less.

You sound like an AFC to me. If you had so many girls why do you care about this 1 so much and for f**ks sake why are you chasing her?????

Forget about her NEXT her she is not worth your time she is not worth the $1 you spend calling her and i highly suggest you read the DJ Bible another few times at the very least.
 
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yea i read it hehe..but yea i guess ur right on some points...the reason though i kept calling was coz i was in the same situation before.....this was my ex gf.....

before she became my ex gf..i called her...same thing...hapnd......so i nexted her....but then i later found out...her phone got stolen....so yea......i started hitting on her again...then yea.nawyayz...thats defeating the purpose of htis post.hehe
 
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Man just do me a favour next time you call turn number sending off. So she doesnt know who called.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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aryt..news flash for those who read this....

im not obsessive over that girl or anythning...but i found out today...theres FKN rumours about me being a player/?!??!?!?!! rumours that i treat women like ****....and i jsut sleep around with them!!!!???!!!!!!!



that is i have to say the sweetest thing evryone has ever said to me...:crackup:


well not everyhting...but you see..im looking for a LTR now.....i found out that she DOES liek me...but didnt txt me...why?? coz she thoguht i was just going to play her....AND theres this ****BLcker who happens to be her dormate....that explains the not answering the phone......SO......

oh yea...and the girls thatl ike me went up to 8....:cool:
but really im not into them...some are hot.....but...im really not into just hvnig sex anymore.....this girl.....shes the quiet type....never had a bf..etc.

so NOW what do u suggest i do?
 
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