My Challenge

[ZW52]

Hello, I am new here. Well, I've been coming to this site for many months now, but I've never posted. I have been very lazy these past few months, and I have only approached one girl since the middle of October. She was engaged, so I didn't get very far there. However, I have made a challenge for myself to get back into the swing of things. This coming Friday I will be out of school for Spring Break. I have challenged myself to approach at least 5 girls over the 10 day period of Spring Break. If I do not reach my goal, I will ban myself from buying clothes, cds, etc. until May. This may not sound like much of a punishment to some of you out there, but to me this is very severe since I am always buying new clothes and the like. So I have a huge incentive to reach my goal of at least 5 cold approaches. I challenge those of you out there who, like me, have been lazy with their game or who have been to afraid to even approach women at all to take my challenge with me. I will be posting my results from the approaches as they happen. So stay tuned, my first post will probably be on Friday or Saturday.

 

[ZW52]

Spring Break Cold Approach #1: Sunday March 14, 2004. 5:20p.m.

I was beginning to get discouraged because everywhere I went there were no really cute girls. Well low and behold, I finally found one and I talked to her. I was at the mall just killing time and I decided to go into Hollisters. I was on the phone with a friend, and I saw this girl by herself looking at a shirt. She was a HB7, tall, long brown hair, very tan. I quickly told my friend on the phone that I had to go. I walked up to her and said hi and introduced myself and made small talk for about a minute or two. I didn't ask for her number because she is not from here and is only in town for a few more days. But hey, I got the first approach done and to me that is always the hardest. It should be pretty easy now, I'll be able to ride this wave of confidence I've gained and get in a few more approaches in the next few days. One down, four to go.

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

hey ill do it with you

just make shur you favoriate this post and come back to it because ive seen alot of people say their going to do something like this but then it just gets lost in the many posts that go on.

lets do it, im starting tomorrow


im thinking up my foundation approach line

what i find that i do , is i can apoproach but somethimes i just get too into the moment and forgit what im goint to say so im just going to have a saver opener just incase theres bairly anything to observe.

best i could come up with now is

" hey , whats your name "

haha

sounds dull but i want it to be universal, im going to do some more thinking tonight

 

[ZW52]

Well it is good to see that someone is willing to take this challenge along with me. Hopefully, you will have as much success as I did. Good luck.

 

[dillin]

I actually find that once you get more experience with women approaches come much more naturally than they ever did before, atleast thats what it was like with me. When I do approaches I just do it when it feels right like if I'm standing next to a girl in line or something you can easily make a comment on a magazine she is holding or something like that.

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

yeah usually i dont approach chicks i wait untill the right moment, usually i get it . When they are close to me . I usually only approach chicks that seem impossible to get that right moment

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

i approached 2 chicks today

they werent full blown approaches , just in the moment approaches if ytou know what i meAN

fisrt chick was walking in front me really slow

i go up and say in a you know fun tone

" geesh can you walk any slower "

she says " yes ,, i can " ( and she starts walking slowly )

i say , " ohh no not as sow as i can "

and were both walking very slow in the hall talking

i get her name, and now that i think about it i forgot it

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the second chick i saw walking past me sitting down, i say hi and offer my hand for a handshake, but there was items in her hand so she gave me a weird handshake and i bust on her for that.

" what kind of hand shake is this , what ever happen to the regular one "

get her laughing a little

the she just walks of because i couldent think of anything to say, haa

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i was starting to figure out a set thing to say but im starting to second guess that because wheni say my set line it feels so un natural, i think im just going to go with the flow. Im basically making a set line because im trying to avoid getting shot down, but i shouldent care, so no set line, just obsevation for now.

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but hey man its cool that you approached, could you tell me how the convo went in a little detail , im just curious about that stuff..?
Where you really nervous or did you just walk up and boom boom boom?

as the vally girls say " details details " haha

 

[ZW52]

The approach

Well, as I already stated, I was in the mall and I stepped into Hollister to see if there were any girls I could approach. At the same time I was on the phone with a friend talking about how I wasn't finding any cute girls at the places I went. So I go to this one section of the store and the only person there is a HB7 by herself looking at a shirt. I say to my friend on the phone "hey, I have to go, I'll call you back" and hung up before my friend could say bye. I was not nervous approaching her because I did not give myself a chance to think about it. If I had thought about the approach, then I probably would have talked myself out of doing it. Within 5 seconds of hanging up my phone, I was talking to her, so I worked fast. Here is how the conversation basically went.
ME: Hi HER: Hey ME: I'm ZW52(shake her hand) HER: I'm Karen ME: So what are you up to today? HER: Oh nothing really, just shopping. what about you? ME: Not a whole lot, just looking around the mall. So are you from around here? HER: no, I'm from North Mississippi, I'm just here visiting my family. (When I heard this, I knew that there was no need to number close, since she lived like 100 miles away) ME: Thats cool HER: Where do you go to school? ME: I just go to a local community college here in Jackson. HER: Thats cool, I'm still in high school I'm a senior. ME: Well, it was nice meeting you Karen HER: It was nice meeting you too. The whole conversation probably lasted about 90 seconds.

 

[ZW52]

Spring Break Cold Approach #2: Tuesday March 16, 2004. 10:10p.m.


I was at a coffee shop with a couple of friends and we were sitting at a table talking. At a table next to us, there were 3 guys and 1 girl sitting talking. The girl was a HB8.5. I knew one of the guys so I decided to go and talk to him and eventually break into a conversation with the HB8.5. I talked to the guy I knew and the other guys with him then I turned to her. She was wearing sunglasses and it was after 10, so it was dark outside. I said to her "so what the hell is with the sunglasses at night?" she said she just felt like wearing them. So I said "well, then let me wear them" she let me wear them for a few minutes then she took them off my face. My friend says she removed them from my face very seductivly, that she "peeled" the glasses from my face. Anyways, we talk for a few minutes and I ask where she goes to school. I find out she is 4 years younger than me, so I immediatly decide not to pursue her any further since she is jailbait. I continued to talk to her and the rest of the group for a few more minutes. I went back to my seat without a number, but with another approach done. Two down, three to go.

 

[ZW52]

Spring Break Cold Approaches #3 and #4: Wednesday March 17,2004. 5:15p.m.

So I was at a bookstore and two cute girls walked in. One was a HB7.5, the other was a HB6.5. I was debating whether or not to approach the HB7.5 for about 30 minutes. Then I said "screw it" and I walked up to her while she was by herself and initiated a conversation. After a few minutes her friend who was HB6.5 came over and I introduced myself to her and the three of us talked for about 5 minutes. I didn't #close because they went to a University about 2 hours away and were only in town for spring break. Although when I think about it, I should have asked anyway. Then I would have someone to party with if I wanted to go to their college on a weekend. Oh well, I have done 4 approaches now and not gotten any numbers. The next approach I have to number close or it will not count. Four approaches down, only 1 more to go.

 

[Pap]

Hey ZW52,

I'm glad you are out there making cold approaches. This is good stuff as 99% of the men out there are not meeting people on cold approaches. People usually meet through their social circle or work. Props to you. I recommend that you complete your challenge, and then double the approaches you make. Have fun.

 

[ZW52]

My challenge was a success and a failure.

Well my spring break is over now and I am preparing to go back to school. I had set a goal to approach 5 girls and I only approached 4. The past few days I have been out having fun with my friends and not really worried about finding any girls. That is kind of the dj mentality: going about your own life and having fun and just having girls on the side and not letting them control your actions. Well, as a result I failed my challenge and I guess now I cannot buy clothes, cds, etc. until May. I can only buy the essentials (gas, food, etc.) until May 1st. But my challenge was also a success because I discovered that I can approach a girl and not be as nervous as I used to be. I did four approaches between Sunday and Wednesday, that is about 1 a day over that period. Not bad really, but I can do better. I may have had better luck had I not done my challenge over Spring Break, all of the really cute girls were gone this week and I stayed in town. No, I'm just making excuses for myself. I should have been able to complete my challenge. I'm not mad or disappointed really because I did do 4 approaches, yet I didn't get any phone #'s. I am going to probably renew my challenge soon to see if I can get in 5 approaches in a week.

 

[ToP DoN]

next time

you need to be more bold...if you come out and ask for what u want you will come off as confident and sure of himself...

 

[Dee-Zy]

This post is the post of the year.

I'm gonna keep an eye on this one.

Keep up the good work guys. I don't care if you just talked for 90s. You did it - that's what counts!!!


I think most of us are too hung up on what to say, thinking you have to talk for 15min or so.

not to discourage you, but I think that if she's only in town for a few days - that's the perfect scenario to have a quick lay and never worry about it again

but baby steps ... baby steps...




PS - you should keep this challenge going. Make it a lifestyle - make it YOU to just talk to hot girls you don't know. Make the YOU become that guy who your friends think you are crazy because you walked up to that hottie and started talking about travelling.
I have alot of respect for you guys.

 

[ZW52]

My Challenge Has Been Renewed

Okay, so I did 4 approaches last week and I had planned to do 5. Well, the way I see it, 4 is better than none. I feel much more sure of myself and feel that I can walk up to almost any girl and talk to her now. Well, I am renewing my challenge. This time however, instead of 5 girls in one week; I'm going to do the motherload.........I am going to approach 50 girls!!, yes 50 girls by June 1st, 2004. I am counting the 4 I've already done, so I only have 46 more to go. This time I am not going to punish myself if I don't reach my goal. 1) because I will reach my goal and 2) because over spring break when I was doing my approaches, I was approaching to avoid punishment, not because I wanted to get a girl's number, I was approaching for the wrong reasons. As before, I will post the results from my approaches as they happen.

 

[Dee-Zy]

GL!


Keep me updated

 

[ZW52]

Cold Approach #5, Thursday, April 15, 2004. 8:10 p.m.


Well it has been a while but I have finally gotten another approach. I was at a book store Thursday and I saw this really cute girl, a HB7.5. I was looking around at some books and i noticed her sitting down reading. After a short while she got up to get another book. I figured she would come back to her seat when she found another book, so I sat in her seat in case she came back so I could talk to her. Sure enough, she came back and jokingly said "hey, you took my seat" then she pulled up a seat beside me and we didn't say much at first, just read our books, but eventually we started talking and our conversation went on for over an hour. I tried to number close on her, but she wouldn't give me her digits. I gave her mine instead, although I doubt she will call. But hey, she wasn't about to give me her number so this is my surest bet, even though it isn't very sure. I was doing very well, I had her laughing and intrigued and everything went as well as it possibly could have gone, aside from me having to give her my number. So if she calls then thats cool, but if not it was a good experience anyway. I now do not think I will make it to 50 cold approaches by June 1st, with school and work, I don't have much time to get out to the places where all the hotties are. Maybe 20 approaches, but I really don't see 45 more approaches happening in the next 1.5 months.

 

[masteralios]

hey man i gotta say

u've got guts do those cold approaches

this stuff sounds fun and i aint done cold approaches for some time

so im gonna do this aswell

get my seductive touch back in time for summer

 

[ZW52]

Cold Approach #6, Saturday, May 22, 2004. 10p.m. and Cold Approach #7, Monday, May 24, 2004. midnight

Well I am back. I have wasted a bunch of time not approaching women, but it was all because I wanted to finish my freshmen year of college with decent grades. So now I am done with school for 3 months. I have all summer to meet women. On my first weekend of summer, I met a hb6.5 at a party that was 100 miles from my house. I did not # close since she lived so far away. Two nights later I was at IHOP and I had a waitress that looked exactly like Tara Reid, definately an 8. After I had paid, I went back to the table to leave a tip. She was cleaning the table at the time and I turned to her and said "can I get your number?" she replied with "no". So i walked off and I didn't really care. My goal is 30 approaches by August 17, the day that I go back to school. Of course, as my past posts suggest, I am not always good with reaching goals. But I will do as much as I can this summer to meet girls.

 

[ZW52]

Cold Approaches #8,#9,#10,#11, and #12,Friday, June 18, 2004. 3:30 p.m.


I was at the park last week and I decided to approach all girls that I saw there that were worthy of my time. I found five girls. I talked to two HB8's, two HB9's, and an HB7. They were all really nice and receptive towards me but all of them had boyfriends. So therefore I didn't get any numbers. But at least I went out and made an effort to meet someone for the first time in a while.