"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Advise please.

About 4 years ago I hooked up with this older chick we were basicaly just **** buddies. Me and my friends would go over her house get drunk smoke weed and id have sex with her. I was never anything emotional for me, I could not have cared less.

She ended up getting a boyfriend but I still hung out with her. Me and this girl have ended up becoming best friends. Her boyfriend was a major player and we got on so well. Haha she used to get really jealous of how much me and her boyfriend got on. Few months ago her boyfriend dumped her (*sigh, I miss that cool guy!).

Now I think this girl is falling for me and keeps on trying it on, I think she has got it in her head we could be a couple. I seriously DO NOT WANT THIS!!!!
I want to keep her as my good friend and cut this idea out of her head, I want nothing more than friendship from her. She is a really emotional person so i need to tread carefully. Any ideas?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Evolve said:
Advise please.

About 4 years ago I hooked up with this older chick we were basicaly just **** buddies. Me and my friends would go over her house get drunk smoke weed and id have sex with her. I was never anything emotional for me, I could not have cared less.

She ended up getting a boyfriend but I still hung out with her. Me and this girl have ended up becoming best friends. Her boyfriend was a major player and we got on so well. Haha she used to get really jealous of how much me and her boyfriend got on. Few months ago her boyfriend dumped her (*sigh, I miss that cool guy!).

Now I think this girl is falling for me and keeps on trying it on, I think she has got it in her head we could be a couple. I seriously DO NOT WANT THIS!!!!
I want to keep her as my good friend and cut this idea out of her head, I want nothing more than friendship from her. She is a really emotional person so i need to tread carefully. Any ideas?

You need to step through this model as I've described here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=139174
and be SURE to be completely clear about your intentions and your desire to help her find Mister Right, etc.

Good luck!

Johnny Soporno
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You ever been friendzoned by a woman before in your life or seen how they've done it to others?

Do the same thing.

Just tell her you only see her as a friend if she presses you for something more.

Also women like to use their rejected males via the false friendship of the friendzone process for money, car rides to get boned by their new stud boyfriend whom they view as more of a man than you or they "borrow" money from you that is never returned because their respect for you is so low due to an AFC male having no balls to stand up for himself so take a lesson from how women callously use their AFC orbiters and if you like see if you can say to her that though you aren't interested in her for a relationship you'd be willing to hook up with her from time to time if she needs your company in order to move on. Of course you are tricking her with this into being a fvck buddy and basically you make it clear to her that anytime she needs to hang out with you in order to feel good and not so alone you two will basically be having sex or there really is no reason at all for you to hang around her.

Don't be guilty about doing this either as if she agrees it is her choice just like it is an AFC male's choice to continue buying gifts for his princess who sucks off everyone except him.

Alternatively to that just start going absolute no contact which means if she calls and you hear her voice you hang up, if you have one of those phone systems that lets you know its her calling better yet as then she doesn't even get to hear you say hello, if she tries to talk to you in person stay stone silent, if she visciously insults you remain calm and simply tell her in an adult father to daughter kind of way that you are sorry she is not grown up enough to handle being rejected and then you walk away.

See women want an angry response or anything that seems like an emotional reaction out of you in order to repair their ego from getting rejected so you've got to always remain cool and calm no matter what she does and just walk away from her at all times she attempts in person communication. A lot of guys are weak though and will give in to being emotional to get a chick to stop nagging them but you have to realize she craves anger and drama from you and if you give it to her she partially wins even if she doesn't get you back with her. So don't let her win. Walk away and remain no contact at all times.

Yeah though most guys on here love drama and head games and all that so I'll be genuinely surprised if you take the no contact route.

And I know you want her to simply be your friend but she wants something different from you and I doubt you'll be able to accomplish anything workable with her other than going complete no contact or get some benefit for yourself by fvcking her brains out if possible from time to time when you need some easy pvssy.
 

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Thanks man. But it seems that your post is geared towards guys who want to have sex with a friend. I could have sex with her anytime I wanted. Thats what I don't want, I want to keep it a NON sexually friendship with her. It keeps me grounded having a girl I can just hang around with and be mates. I want to get all the attraction she has for me out her head.

To be honest its a pain in the arse. When we do out clubbing she gets insanly jealous when im with other girls and tries her best to ****block me every time. Sleeping with her will make the situation worse!

I love her to bits as a FRIEND but thats it. Thats why im posting on here because me friendship means a lot to me. And I really don't want to do something stupid like getting really drunk and giving in to her.
 

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Sh!t man I just realized how p!ss poor my reply was due to lack of sleep.

Sorry bro.

Yeah though re-reading things it doesn't look like you're going to be able to salvage a friendship with her.

That is all in her hands really and if she really likes you and is really emotional as you say she is not going to handle rejection well.

Even if she does pretend to be your friend she's just going to keep trying to c0ckblock you messing with your game and effectively blue balling you from hooking up with chicks you really want to be with.

Looks like you'll have to give her the talk about not feeling the same way for her as she does you and that you just want to be friends etc and take a wait and see approach from there.

If she keeps trying to get with you and c0ckblocking you, you are simply going to have to bring the hammer down and get her out of your life and tell all your friends and people you associate with the deal about her so she doesn't get to start spreading rumours about you first which she will do out of revenge and retaliation or she'll just say that you and she are a couple and continue to ruin your game.

You need to shut that all down by letting your social circle know the truth dude.

Of course you need to do that after the wait and see idea fails which I think it will considering how emotional the girl is and how much she apparently seems to want you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah man. I can see this turning out a bit ****ty if I don't handle it well. Actually her friendship means a lot more to me than my male friends. Gonna have to tell her straight when she tries it on. Give her the LJBF and hope she see's us for what we are!

Grr and her facebook status aimed at me is driving me nuts!

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her is missin her boo 2 day !!!



her is need of sum tlc!!! hurry up and *** over i need food and ur cookin aint i a lucky girl oxoxoxoxoxo. 19:06

- 2 comments
at 19:15 26 November via Facebook Mobile
girl Aw lucky u lol.x
at 14:21 on 27 November
her lucky not quite i ended up cookin like i always do lol .....

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Just wish she'd hook up with the chumps always hitting on her. Hopfully one of them will get luck. Or her player boyfreind would come back and solve this!
 
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