My Approach: The Sincere Compliment

[DJ McBuster]

The sincere compliment is a great way to get with a girl. I would say it works better than anything else you can do, but it like all other things DJ requires patience, charisma and discipline.
The sincere compliment begins with studying the prey. Before you pursue a woman examine her posture, her intrest level in you, and her social worth. Judge her self-esteem, her popularity, her love for herself, and her awareness of the surroundings. Try to visualize her life as a web and think about what threads hold it together. Of course you should do this from a distance and run it through your brain a few times. Once you get to know her think about this idea again and again. You want to know what makes her feel she is special, that is the sincere compliment you can give.
Don't waste time on a woman you do not want or need. Go only after a woman that would mean something to you and give you something beyond physical gratitude. There is nothing more pathetic to females than pursuing a woman merely for sex. Sure we all think about it and we all do it. But, if you go into your cold approach with no expectations, demands, or emotional feelings you will be calm, relaxed, and at peace with yourself and women find this to be very inticing...
Once you have studied your target it is time to do a cold approach. I recommend waiting until she is seated or standing still. Go up to her and introduce yourself, shake her hand or touch her shoulder to get her attention. Be polite and discreet when you introduce yourself. Keep good eye contact and smile ever so often. Call her by her name always and don't try to be to bold or pushy. You don't want her to know your hitting on her yet, you just want to see what she is all about. Your goal her is to make her comfortable around you, so she does not have to be in her defensive female mode.
Just be friendly and ask her some basic leading questions. Stay positive, calm, and keep a relaxed face. Remember the real topic of your conversation is you her and you. Find out her intrests, her hobbies, what she likes to do, and what she wants in her life. Don't interview her though just express a mild curiousity. Also don't be afraid to talk about yourself. Do not over do this it though. The conversation needs to be about her but, it is vital to relate yourself to her words. Think of building a bridge between yourself and her. I have never met a woman who did not share one of my many intrests or have passion for something I also cared about.
You should know early on if she is intrested in you or not and she will know you fancy her if you use the right posture and tone in your voice. If the attraction is not there or if obstacles present themselves move on, the world is a big place. If the conversation keeps flowing, let it continue, but be mindful it will come to an end. It should'nt matter when it does as long as you leave each other with a common thread.
Now the next step is to establish a comfort zone, I recommend talking to her in person at least one more time. During these encounters you should explore and develop your common thread. It could be something big, or small, important, or stupid. What it is does not matter. What is important is that you both value it similarily. Using this common thread you should always have a valid reason to talk to her and this will let you explore her mind. Lead with your common thread and relate it to the other parts of your lives. She will tell you whatever you want if you ask her the right way.
Once she is comfortable around you the attraction will be overwhelming to her. This is when you give her a sincere compliment. Now a sincere compliment as I call it cannot be about something physical, forced, or untrue. If you are wrong about it you are *ucked. So take your time and let it flow naturally.You want to compliment her on her life's choice and passions. You are trying to get to the center of her life's web so you may pentrate it.
Anybody can tell her she is fine, but only you can appreciate her as more than a woman, you see her naked as a human being. You tell her: " the way you care about your daughter makes you beautiful mother" or "your goal to save lives makes you beautiful part of this world". This will melt her like warmed butter. She will give you her number, go out with you, give you a kiss, or extreme animal-like sex. All you need is enough balls and backbone to pull it off. If you can show calmness, value, warmth and passion she will open up. I assure women never get this emotional connection early on from men. This kinda thing is there pornography. It is what they fantasize about, it makes them wet, so give it to them. Give her a sincere compliment and she will surrender herself to you.

 

[upsidedownside7]

DJ McBuster: You are good.....GOOD.

My contribution to this great post is this....I like contributing to most of the conversation at first then handing the ball to her. This way she will match MY VALUES and she gives input to impress or gain rapport with me.

You suggested being friendly which is KEY. You come in weird, creepy or stiff and that's what she'll think you are. Gotta get their shields down and get them to want to play with you.

Similar values are great but if your working like a dog to match hers, it's not so great. Get her to MATCH YOURS.

Your compliment suggestions were terrific. Reward her at the right time and she will take another bigger risk with the interaction and another and another and so on. Making them unique...awesome. Now she'll be getting compliments from someone who isn't like the other guys....which makes you STAND OUT.

Seriously, get this witty ****y funny bullsh*t out of your heads and start doing the stuff this guy is telling you.

 

[DJ McBuster]

Get her to MATCH YOURS.

I response to this my friend I pray for you.... Woman are extremely self-centered, insecure, self-concious, and generally lack personality and character. Expecting a woman to match your intrests and to act upon them is asking to much. You as a DJ should want to grow and expand your personality and character as much as possible.You should be able to find a thread in her narrow intrests and focuses easily if you have a high self worth. I know it would be nice to have a chick match your intrest, but that would be asking her to lead and take intiative.... You see the intrest you share together allows you to get together if you want too. But, if she is matching your intrest she will either think of you as a friend, or be pressured and walk away.

 

[StrongBad]

I think this method has its merits

I wouldn't dismiss the C&F approach altogether, but rather think that if both of these methods are used interchangably that you can keep a woman on her toes, and thus keep her interest in you high.

I would guess that determining your initial approach (C&F or Sincere Compliment) to a girl requires you to quickly assess the girl's personality to see which she is more likely to respond to.

 

[upsidedownside7]

I response to this my friend I pray for you.... Woman are extremely self-centered, insecure, self-concious, and generally lack personality and character. Expecting a woman to match your intrests and to act upon them is asking to much. You as a DJ should want to grow and expand your personality and character as much as possible.You should be able to find a thread in her narrow intrests and focuses easily if you have a high self worth. I know it would be nice to have a chick match your intrest, but that would be asking her to lead and take intiative.... You see the intrest you share together allows you to get together if you want too. But, if she is matching your intrest she will either think of you as a friend, or be pressured and walk away.

You missed the entire point. Nobody said ANYTHING about interests. Interests are football, sex, basketball, gambling, eating, sleeping and that's nothing that can get her to relate. Talk about your VALUES and tell her how YOU feel about those values. Ex: You mention to you traveled to spain...so what? there's no emotion or value but something off the top of my head like "One of the reasons I like traveling is because it puts other cultures into perspective for me. It excites me to be among the different lifestyles we never get a chance to see, ya know?" I guarantee this value sounds intelligent and she WILL come back and put in her input. I guarantee she will RELATE to you and you can reward her in small ways for this. This is RAPPORT. what's your name, where u from, hows your mom isn't game. You even said they lack character so why follow it?

"I get the sincerity part...of course, you have to be sincere and express a genuine interest in her, whether it's heartfelt or you just wanna lay her...

But I NEVER convey sincerity EXCLUSIVELY...I balance it with C & F and Neg Theory. If she rejects it, then I move on to another target."

joking around or ****y funny is good. It definitley will make her chase you, girls love being teased and playing BUT a lot of guys entire gameplan is to come back with some "witty" comeback and she'll end up loving him. That simply doesn't exist. ****y funny, all that stuff is like salt and pepper, spices it up. That won't close it for you.

For example I have this friend who lays A LOT of girls. He has no idea about the community but we went out a couple of nights ago and his entire game is busting on chicks and being the loudest mother f*cker in the house. This past week we talked to these loud chix (match made in heaven for him) but they said "we're going outside!" They weren't HOT but the hottest property in there. Instantly every guy went outside. I thought of going but I said "wait, these girls are in total control, those goes with the principle of getting lucky and them choosing the guy she wants, dude I'm staying." Those girls walked by to get go outside and rubbed me and my other friend saying we want you to come out guys. I ignored her and kept talking and she said it again. Yeah, they wanted all the guys out there to CHOOSE from. My friend wanted one of em and I pulled him and said "don't go outside right now". Do you remember in high school where everyone gets in a circle and two guys talk and everyone else looks around? That's what they were doing.

After we found out other chix we wanted left, we went outside. I talked to one of her friends who didn't let me speak AT ALL and kept bragging to me which I found very rude. I felt like the girl when the guy brags about his job and benz and his house. While outside I was listening to my crazy friend go off on these girls. "Get out of my bar", "you know you want my ass", "you girls are cooler then I thought" being very loud. Everyone laughed, you know how it is. I was after another girl so I left, my other buddy followed. From the time I was talking to the band I saw my loud friends follow those girls EVERYWHERE. He was dissing them, playing around but his actions didn't back up what he was SAYING. So those girls see me and my other friend and walk over to us. One of the girls is just spewing bile from her mouth. She's talking about her necklace blah blah blah blah and my buddy took the trap and talked about her necklace. I wanted her friend and my loud friend would NOT leave her alone on the other side. Necklace chick asks me some questions but I don't answer her because she's an IDIOT and wanted to get on something better so I leave. I get to the other side and introduce myself to the cute one and loud friend is so loud and putting on a show, I know I should let him put on a show, Don't wanna ****block, I chat up a friend from highschool and play it by ear...He goes in to hug her, denied....kiss her, denied.... He instantly pipes down.

Now do I think my loud friend won't EVER f*ck them? No, I think he could but it's going to be when all her options run out. They both inhabit the same bar and he's a fun guy. That's not game, that's being at the right place at the right time....that's getting lucky.

So the moral of the story.....what did ****y + funny get him?