"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Morpheus and Neo.

FindingMyCool

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Misplaced Energy and the DJ Within.


I had to study psychology for a semester, I bought a big book on it . . . did you know that when you are in a room with a lot of people, and they are all talking – when you maintain conversation with one person in that room you are partaking in the ****tail party phenomenon. It’s stimulus segmentation; your brain is filtering out all those other sound waves so you can focus on that one sound wave, that one voice you want to listen to.

That has nothing to do with what I want to talk about but wow a girl with that knowledge next time you are at a party, tell it so it makes her sound special, you know?

Anyways,

I’ve been out with groups of people and on a few dates recently . . . and I often find myself having an alright time but not closing any deals or saying exactly what I want to say. Frustration builds inside me when I get home after these nights and I end up with a mass of energy raging inside me, asking myself why I didn’t use my full potential, thinking ‘if I could go back two hours I so would have done this and/or that’. All this determination and will-power keeps me up and is pretty much useless, all it is good for is a restless night.
Where was this determination and will-power before?
It was clouded because I was lost in the moment when I was out; I wasn’t engaging with a cool mindset, rather, a heated unstable mindset that might see me deploy the odd ****y statement or witty remark, but generally lacking substance.
See, when I am home I am detached from the situation, I am more composed and this facilitates brain storming, the flood gates to my DJ ideology open but way too late, they need to open at the time, not when I am tossing about in bed, alone!


So how do I place the misplaced energy?

I’ve noticed on these boards people ask for advice and when they get the advice they turn round and say “yeah, I know . . . you are right”.

"YEAH YOU KNOW?!!"

If you know why are you asking? Why was there a problem, chump?!

I’m guilty as charged by the way.

See, I think, inside, we do know, however, there is cocoon imprisoning our inner DJ. The cocoon is fear, doubt and disbelief.

How much better would you feel if you had a little secret ear phone in your ear – a live feed to a master DJ who had all the accumulated knowledge posted on this site memorised, and more.

You see a girl, or are sitting with one on a date and he tells you exactly what to do, exactly what to say and when to say it . . . she is responding and smiling and you feel great as you seem to glide with such ease through what would normally be a cluster duck of a situation trying to calm the inner anxiety, questioning and scrutinising your words and actions.

Like Morpheus said, “You need to let it all go . . . fear, doubt and disbelief.”

Because here it is, the truth . . . we have that master DJ within us, you shouldn’t be thinking, ‘man, if I had that live wire feed to the grand DJ this would be so easy’ – you should be looking to yourself and thinking ‘alright what advice would I give here’ and then use it, you know, most people enjoy the ease of giving their own advice a lot more than they enjoy practising their own. You need to learn to trust in what you are telling yourself, trust in your own advice – especially once you’ve looked through this site, you have the information now do what you know is right.

Lets face it after a while when you bring your questions to this site, the advise you get back is exactly what you know to be true, isn’t it?

So now that you know that, next time you find yourself in the situation, targets set on a girl . . . before you deploy your master DJ skills . . . think about the energy you own within you, you know? The one that I called ‘misplaced’ when it manifests negatively at night if you do not use it properly. Yeah, harness that energy and channel it positively into your repertoire or else!

Do you want a crappy, frustrated night or have a great night entertaining and winning over some nice ladies?

. . . Indeed

Time to burst out of that cocoon and spread the wings of that master DJ . . . You.



As Morpheus says, only then will you realise “you are the one”.



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The subtle metaphor here is that Morpheus is that Master DJ we all look for and seek for advice while we are all Neo-like, following that guidance only to realise, we are beyond the advice of the mysterious Master DJ(Morpheus), we actually are the Master DJ (Neo).

Yeeeeah, I saw an advert for the matrix this morning.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's all about becoming a DJ and breaking the old bad habits and breaking old limiting beliefs too.

You as an AFC go on a date and although you have studied all the techniques and everything when you are there on the date you behave in the same AFC way as always. You've programmed yourself to behave in a certain way and that takes time to change. Bad habits need to be broken and they can be broken by being conscious when you do them.

You come home after the date and think of all the things you should have done and said.

Then, after reading more articles and getting more advise you are now starting to change your beliefs and how you see things. Eventually every date and every interaction with women you'll get better bit by bit depending on the effort you put into it.

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From what I remember of the film, despite all the things Morpheus said to Neo it was only when Neo started to truely believe in his powers that he became powerful.
 

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Techniques aren't important because remember when neo knew kung fu he couldnt beat morpheus. Once neo believed and had the technique he fought the agents with ease.

“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” Buddah
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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That just explains who is awake and who is still sleeping... People get grouchy when you try to wake them up...
 

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FindingMyCool said:
I had to study psychology for a semester.
I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night.

What's your point?
 
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