Mixed Signals/IOIs

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Hello all,

I read a post by a DJ who talked about girls who act differently around a guy that they may like. The traditional smiling and initiating contact were not a part of what he was talking about.

A girl may emotionally value a man, but a girl may not be able to express that she likes him, and she may be afraid to talk to him. The DJ wrote that a girl would be sweet around a guy who couldn't connect to her emotionally, but another guy might. A girl might begin to act differently around such a guy. She might thrown tantrums, or she might become very withdrawn.

The problem I have is that women may really like a guy, but the signs when she really likes a guy are similar to the signs that she doesn't like a guy.

Has anyone else experienced this problem?

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[Kailex]

Yes. I've had this problem before, and it all got solved once I stopped trying to read signs and IOI's and just ALWAYS assumed attraction, even if it wasn't there.

The only IOI I pay attention to is when I ask a woman out.
If she says "Yes", then that's all I need to go on.

But I hate trying to look at stuff like her playing with her hair, or crossing her legs a certain way... to me it's a waste of precious time. Of course, I don't just walk up to a girl and say: Let's go out.

But as an example, I won't sit there seeing a girl at a coffee shop and try to interpret whether she is attracted to me or not. If she looks at me, it's on. What's the worst that can happen... she say NO?

The time it takes to try to read signs/attitudes/words is essentially a waste of your time.

 

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KelieX -

I didnt mean it as a gauge of how attracted she is; I meant if she isn't confident, or she begins to act in an off way. Girls will say yes and play along, but when stuff gets serious they might reconsider.