"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

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Missed opportunities

judoguy

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ne of the things I have learned since I have been here is to never let an opportunity slip by. Carpe Diem.

This has led me to think about all the opportunities I have missed in the past, opportunities that I really should have seized on. Everyone put your worst missed opportunity for ****s and giggles.

Mine was awful : If I had this opportunity again I would probably get down and thank the Lord.... haha , no but in all seriousness this could have been awesome.

I have always been bad at math, so when I started college at Rutgers University I ended up in the most basic math class they offered, elementary algebra. Initially I was really pissed because it was goign to take me about 4 semesters to finish college math, but as I walked in the door I had a smile from ear to ear. As I opened the door to that basement classroom, I saw a room full of hot girls ! ...7 members of the Rutgers cheerleading squad, 4 or 5 sorority sisters, and a handful of just random hot girls. As far as males, there was only one other male who was sort of shying away in the corner. ( who eventually became one of my good friends)

Even in my pathetic state, I knew this was like hitting a gold mine. After I sat down so many fantasies were running through my head, such as :

Having a party at my aparment for all the cheerleader girls after we won a football game
Tutoring two of the girls and having a threesome after
Sexual favors for study partners

etc. etc. etc.

Needless to say nothing close to this ever happened. I ended up never actually talking to any of them, instead I spent most class either staring at their asses and fantasizing or trying to think of something witty to say in order to seem "cool". I ended up finding one of the girls on facebook and adding her, she sent me back some message asking " Who are you?" . This pretty much broke my heart as I had been in her class for something like 6 weeks at this point. After this, I got so embarassed/ nervous to even show up for class that I just started skipping and eventually got a D. I ended up leaving the school, but have never forgot the lessons learned in that classroom.

Every once in a while I'll wish I can go back in time, as the person I am now and actually make some of those fantasies a reality. Although I probably couldnt pull a threesome, I could prob. at least have the balls to pull some of them to a party.


You guys got anything similar ? ???
 

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BongDuy

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I have these pretty often ( nothing that extreme ), but i think the main thing is that you realized you missed those opportunities. A lot of people aren't even aware of the opportunities they've missed, so when you do, take it as a good sign. But don't live in the past, learn from it.
 
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