Hey guys, I think I might have screwed up. I've been dating a girl for about two months up at college and things had gotten fairly serious, but no "I love you" thrown out. Anyways, with us going our seperate ways for the summer, I thought that we needed to talk about where we "stood" and what to expect upon coming back to school in the fall.
I like this girl alot and she's really into me (compliments me all the time, tells me a I'm perfect, etc.), but I've never been in a "serious" relationship before. Since we had only been going out for a fairly short period of time (2 months), I didn't think it would be good to be exclusive for the summer. So before I left, I told her that I didn't want to pressure the relationship and that I'd like to pick things up in the fall (which is true). Consquently, I thought we should casually date other people during the summer, and keep in touch (talk every two weeks on the phone).
She seemed to think it was a ok idea (no screaming, etc.) and I asked for her input before I left. She didn't really change anything and so that's pretty much the plan. However, on further reflection I am alittle concerned and need some thoughts from you guys.
My concerns as follows:
1) I think it might have been "weak" of me to bring up the relationship talk instead of letting her do it. But I didn't want to leave with no idea of what would get me in trouble with her, and I put it off as long as possible. I don't want to be a "jerk" and I thought having ground rules was appropriate.
2) She's a real romantic and like I said, she likes me alot. I'm afraid I might have turned her off by being so blunt (casually date, no pressure on the relationship, talk only every two weeks). I mean, I'm afraid I might've come off as too insensitive or even weird for being specific like that. However, I didn't want to leave anything up for question.
What do you guys think? Should I have not talked about it at all? Is only talking every two weeks not enough, too much, or a weird rule in the first place?
I called her when I got home, talked for forty minutes, and then said I'll talk to you in two weeks. She seemed fine over the phone, but I can never tell with women. Sorry for the long post, but I need some input!
I like this girl alot and she's really into me (compliments me all the time, tells me a I'm perfect, etc.), but I've never been in a "serious" relationship before. Since we had only been going out for a fairly short period of time (2 months), I didn't think it would be good to be exclusive for the summer. So before I left, I told her that I didn't want to pressure the relationship and that I'd like to pick things up in the fall (which is true). Consquently, I thought we should casually date other people during the summer, and keep in touch (talk every two weeks on the phone).
She seemed to think it was a ok idea (no screaming, etc.) and I asked for her input before I left. She didn't really change anything and so that's pretty much the plan. However, on further reflection I am alittle concerned and need some thoughts from you guys.
My concerns as follows:
1) I think it might have been "weak" of me to bring up the relationship talk instead of letting her do it. But I didn't want to leave with no idea of what would get me in trouble with her, and I put it off as long as possible. I don't want to be a "jerk" and I thought having ground rules was appropriate.
2) She's a real romantic and like I said, she likes me alot. I'm afraid I might have turned her off by being so blunt (casually date, no pressure on the relationship, talk only every two weeks). I mean, I'm afraid I might've come off as too insensitive or even weird for being specific like that. However, I didn't want to leave anything up for question.
What do you guys think? Should I have not talked about it at all? Is only talking every two weeks not enough, too much, or a weird rule in the first place?
I called her when I got home, talked for forty minutes, and then said I'll talk to you in two weeks. She seemed fine over the phone, but I can never tell with women. Sorry for the long post, but I need some input!