****, messed up with this girl, went no contact on her, and now miss her

[Incognito72]

I'm in a ****ed situation. Met this girl a month ago, and we went for drinks the same day we met. Next date I almost ****ed her. Pulled her back to her's, escalated through most of her resistance, but she wouldn't let me **** her (she was naked though). Next date same deal, we're out, go back to mine, and no sex. She peaced to go home at this point for vacation.

Met her at a bar on NYE after this party I was at (I celebrated the new year with my friends, then went to see her). We danced, she introduced me to her friends, except this 1 guy (he looked pissed I was there, found out he tried to kiss her earlier). I suggest to her that we head to my place, but she couldn't (on the rag). See her a week later (about 12 days ago), we grab lunch and she gives me a ******* before she goes to class. Haven't seen her or really heard much from her since.

I try her a couple of times early last week, once was a phone call where she told me she was busy and hung up. The other times were texts to which she either gave 1 word answers or didn't even respond. I know I ****ed up somewhere here, so I went no contact last Weds after she flaked on me, deleted her number and everything.

But the problem is I sort of miss her. I was starting to like this chick, dispite her not wanting to have sex ever. She was still into making out and fooling around, but would never let me have sex with her.

I need to be slapped around before I do something foolish like contact her over facebook.

 

[Incognito72]

bump

 

[1337]

the common advice here would be to see other girls at the same time your gaming your target(s), this would keep you from missing her like this. You probably messed up by not spinning plates. Its not a necessity for success but the more the merrier.

 

[Die Hard]

Build up your mental strength...you just don't contact her, period. The temptation will be there anyway, but the way you respond to the temptation is what's important. Falling for the temptation will mean you have failed, and if you fall for it now, why would you ever NOT fall for it in the future, with other girls? However, if you manage to stay 'no contact' here and now, in this situation, you will have gained self control that lasts over to similar situations in the future. For if you could remain in control of yourself this time, you should be able to do the same thing in future situations, which is exactly what you will tell yourself the next time you're in this situation: "Fvck, I've been here before and I could resist it the last time, so I can do it this time as well!!"

See things in a broader perspective. You forcing yourself not to contact this girl, is not just influencing THIS situation. It will have a lasting influence on your willpower, your resolve to not become emotionally dependant of a woman and your future encounters with women. The willpower you gain by staying strong in the current situation will aid you in all kinds of future situations, like when you have to control yourself not to text a girl one day after meeting her but waiting a few days etc. One, if not THE most important aspect in developing your game is to have self control and not worry about the outcome of your actions. This aspect is something you master through experience, like any ability. You train yourself in it:

- You walk away when you have to, when your mind tells you it's the right thing to do, not allowing your emotions to make you do the wrong thing.
- You don't text her back straight after she texted you.
- You don't give her a compliment when you try to seduce her (you "neg" her and then give her a compliment!)
- You don't tell her what she wants to hear, fearing that she will respond in a negative way if you don't.

You make it all a habit and it all comes down to the same aspect, self control, which you gradually build up this way.