Mental toughness

[PRMoon]

Call it self discipline or whatever you want but I've found ever increasing value in keeping my head tightly screwed on and not being to volitile when it comes to my decision making practices as well as my rules for living in general. When I feel my self starting to slip or stray from a practice or when I can see my self looking down a road of untimely destruction with no back up I f*cking snap my self back in line and out of that phase.

I've always preached mental toughness to my friends but until recently I didn't have a full grasp on what was all about. I've been workin two jobs a totally of 7 days a week for almost 4 months now (My last and only day of was July 4th so that week I only worked 6 days I'm not sure i'll be working memorial day but i'm sure i can if i wish it) and let me tell you waking up every day knowing i have to be one of two places (if not both) has really straightened me out and forged me into a much more controlled individual. Some say it's crazy, I hope their wrong becasue I've got one more month of it and it woudl be a shame to see me lose my sanity after such a long stretch. I feel stronger in myself and I see some of the people at both of my jobs compromise who they are and what they believe in for what can only be summed as petty needs and lack of mental fortitude.

In fact just yesterday my manager from one of my jobs confessed to me that he was going to break a personal rule and "sh*t where he eats" (go out with a co worker) I know the person he's talking about and he's going to be entering a very very chaotic situation between his work life and his socil life if he does such. Maybe he's hard up for it, but he's already getting some from somewhere else. I just don't think he has the self control to say no to the girl like I did when she tried the same crap on me. He lacks focus and mental toughness.

 

[Ricky]

I started studying mental toughness about 10 years ago and although I am close to cracking sometimes, I know I'm way better off than I would have been without it.

We do need to program our minds positively. I've had a tough year, but compared to some people I really have nothing to complain about.

 

[sstype]

i feel the same way...i am at a crossroads in my life where I question myself whether I have the tenacity to excel in the positive aspects (school, work, gym) and the ability to resist the negative temptations (excessive masturbation, too much web surfing, laziness)

I dont want to further corrupt myself with all the instant gratification **** that society allows us.

 

[cave dweller]

wrong........

PRMoon,

Your boss is dead wrong.

He is about to break rule #34. (which states):

'Don't put your meat where you get your bread.'

(he will learn)

cave dweller

 

[AFK Protector]

How did you acquire/train this mental toughness?

Besides the whole working 2 jobs (props man), what have you done, read, experienced, that has helped with your mental toughness?

I'm working on it, but I find I am weak in foreign situations. Thanks.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Religion is a fine place to learn mental toughness and integrity.....

Does anyone have any other resources on mental toughness....

Im guessing it is something that YOU as an individual have to work on.

 

[AFK Protector]

Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
Religion is a fine place to learn mental toughness and integrity.....

Does anyone have any other resources on mental toughness....

Im guessing it is something that YOU as an individual have to work on.

WEll bro, I'm not a big fan of religion, but I've been working ouit and I gotta say, with physical strength comes mental strength.

You gotta fight through the pain, drag your ass outta the bed at 5:30 AM to do a light jog then HIIT. OMG HIIT KILLS YOU.

Anyhow, always i try to remember that pain is weakness leaving the body. mwahaahahaa

 

[AFK Protector]

Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
Religion is a fine place to learn mental toughness and integrity.....

Does anyone have any other resources on mental toughness....

Im guessing it is something that YOU as an individual have to work on.

WEll bro, I'm not a big fan of religion, but I've been working ouit and I gotta say, with physical strength comes mental strength.

You gotta fight through the pain, drag your ass outta the bed at 5:30 AM to do a light jog then HIIT. OMG HIIT KILLS YOU.

Anyhow, always i try to remember that pain is weakness leaving the body. mwahaahahaa


OH YEAH ALL YOU OTHER PPL LIKE PR MOON PLEASE POST YOUR RESPOSNE TO MY AND MASTERYS REQUESTS THANK YA

 

[Jvesti]

Mental toughness/discipline separates wide eyed dreamers from men of accomplishment. Let me tell you, there are too many dreamers in this world.

Discipline is achieved in small victories pushing your comfort level. It is victory of the mind over the body. It is change of habit and dealing with the pain of uncomfort to become greater and more in control.

I first learned discipline in the gym. I carried that over into other areas of my life.

 

[RedPill]

Originally posted by AFK Protector
OH YEAH ALL YOU OTHER PPL LIKE PR MOON PLEASE POST YOUR RESPOSNE TO MY AND MASTERYS REQUESTS THANK YA

1. Do a google search for "vince lombardi quotes". Read the pages that come back. The dude had so many good things to say about mental toughness, success, etc.

2. Read books and articles about self-made entrepreneurs. Better yet, go out in your town and go interview a few of the more successful ones of to learn about their life and their work and how they got where they are.

3. Study history. You'll find pretty quickly that there is a common denominator among men who accomplished great feats. Mental toughness.

4. Look to the military. Do they f*** around? The whole military culture prides itself on mental toughness. You must be willing to be your own drill instructor.

Today's generation of youth (at least in America) lacks in this characteristic more so than at any other point in history. Look what's happening as a result. I don't need to spell it out for you. Most people choose to live in mediocrity with everything they do. They do so because they aren't willing to sacrifice the temporary comforts in their life, and they need immediate gratification. Choose to evolve. Choose to become mentally tough and strive for excellence in everything you do, and the world is yours.

 

[Visceral]

Mental toughness is everything - no matter what you must do to achieve what you're after, if you have enough mental toughness, you will eventually achieve it.

Mental toughness is hard to get, though, especially when you don't have any, because you need to be tough to be able to do what it takes to get tougher.

This is why "small victories" are so critical; you're going to be discouraged going after anything bigger. The only problem is that most big, life-changing things don't lend themselves to "small victories" and "baby steps"; it's actually easier to just dive in with them.

 

[Reiki]

I have a question for all of you, how do you *exactly* "workout" your mental toughness? It just seems a bit unclear to me reading some of the messages (might just not be getting it though).

I started my mental toughness 'training' with working out, and dieting, resisting grabbing that bag of chips or eating junkfood.

Right now, I seem to have a fear of getting a job, so instead of thinking badly about my internship that I will have soon, I think of it as a way to get over my fear of having a job.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by AFK Protector
How did you acquire/train this mental toughness?

Besides the whole working 2 jobs (props man), what have you done, read, experienced, that has helped with your mental toughness?

I'm working on it, but I find I am weak in foreign situations. Thanks.

I've read a lot about self disciplie and auto biographies by mentaly tough people. Alot of them are the type of people who have to make really hard decisions (the kind that involve sacrifice of some kind, mostly governmental/military minds) that really does help you get a picture for results and the methods of mental toughness.

I myself find myself pushing the boundaries on my comfort zone all the time to increase my mental toughness as well as making decisons that don't sit well with me and often get me upset because i'm striving for "the greater good" insituations. Mental toughness is definately not something you'll achieve over night, it's gonna take some depression and some heart ache for you to get there.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
Religion is a fine place to learn mental toughness and integrity.....

Does anyone have any other resources on mental toughness....

Im guessing it is something that YOU as an individual have to work on.

You can find opportunties for mental toughness in just about any area in life. It could be something simple like waking up 30 mins earlier ever day for a month to do something additionally productive with your morning. You're right in assuming that its something that you've got to find for yourself and you really do have to want it becasue to have a strong mind definately takes dedication to a cause that you have to be hungry for.

If you're just dilly dallying with the idea of potentially improving control of your mind and your life then it's more then likely not going to work out because it's so much easier not to improve and do nothing then it is to take those steps forward.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by Reiki
I have a question for all of you, how do you *exactly* "workout" your mental toughness? It just seems a bit unclear to me reading some of the messages (might just not be getting it though).

I started my mental toughness 'training' with working out, and dieting, resisting grabbing that bag of chips or eating junkfood.

Right now, I seem to have a fear of getting a job, so instead of thinking badly about my internship that I will have soon, I think of it as a way to get over my fear of having a job.

Working out definately takes a degree of mental toughness. Forcing yourself to go to the gym when you're tired or don't want to is definately pushing that comfort zone. Resisting foods is right up there too, reaching for leeks instead of french fries is an awesome start..

Fear of getting a job is a maturity thing not necessarily a toughness issue. I hate being un employeed because Ihate being broke. So do most of the working people in the world (or at least in the states anyway) so it's more like aversion of the fear of destitution that puts us in that mental state.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by Visceral
Mental toughness is everything - no matter what you must do to achieve what you're after, if you have enough mental toughness, you will eventually achieve it.

Mental toughness is hard to get, though, especially when you don't have any, because you need to be tough to be able to do what it takes to get tougher.

This is why "small victories" are so critical; you're going to be discouraged going after anything bigger. The only problem is that most big, life-changing things don't lend themselves to "small victories" and "baby steps"; it's actually easier to just dive in with them.

Just wanted to say this is right on the money. You won't read or hear about anthing that describes the roots of mental toughness better then this. Mental toughness separates the sharks from the sheep. If you're not already a shark you have to work hard to become one then it kinda snow balls. Small victories are definately key towards changing your life, but significant changes require big brass balls and sometimes throwing risk to the wind.

 

[AFK Protector]

thanks PRMoon. You're an inspiration.

 

[Reiki]

Originally posted by PRMoon


Fear of getting a job is a maturity thing not necessarily a toughness issue. I hate being un employeed because Ihate being broke. So do most of the working people in the world (or at least in the states anyway) so it's more like aversion of the fear of destitution that puts us in that mental state.

Hm, never thought of it as a maturity issue, puts it in a whole new light. Thank you.

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Kyokushinkai, that is all.

 

[Visceral]

Originally posted by PRMoon
Fear of getting a job is a maturity thing not necessarily a toughness issue. I hate being un employeed because Ihate being broke. So do most of the working people in the world (or at least in the states anyway) so it's more like aversion of the fear of destitution that puts us in that mental state.

I would say that it's also not a toughness issue because it's an external factor (poverty) that's motivating you, as opposed to an internal one (ambition).

This difference between external and internal motivation is something I'm certain a lot of guys here have problems with. They never learned how to develop their own goals and find it in themselves to pursue them because these were both always given from outside by parents, teachers, and peers.