Mental disorders, BPD, red flags, I need a DJ to evaluate this

[jmeredi]

-She came onto me hard, said it was immediate attraction

-Our first date we made out and did some heavy petting, she told
me she could fall for me during this.

-Talks about a life changing experience that I never did get her to explain.

-Asks me about past relationships a few weeks later.

-Almost everyone else that knows her says she is either a b!tch or a mental case.

-A friend of hers told me that she had said she was diagnosed bi-polar and was suicidal (don't know if that's true cuz she seems to make things up)

-Told me that when she meets a great guy she would drop everything and obsesses over him.

-She's adopted and has never met her biological father, but her current parents are decent church going people, they are also her grandparents.

-An older lady friend of mine who is close with her said the girl tried to act like she (and her husband) were her parents.

-She asked me if I believed in God before we even dated, said it was important that I did. Very religious, no sex

-Our first date she pleasures herself.

-She is now seeing an ex that cheated on her and makes fun of her in front of his friends, he's currently railing her and she's afraid he's using her for ass.

-Her mom tells me not to get serious with her, she's high maintenance.

-While she is with this guy she 'loves" I have been to her house and given her intimate back rubs with lotion.

-Says she wants a guy to love her for her goods and bads, seems to have alot of hate for herself.

-admitted shew as moody and is taking anti-depressants.

Phew, that's not all of it, but damn that's enough.
I need an experienced DJ to help me out here, open to any opnions or responses.
Just wanna hear what you got to say about all this.
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[TheDarkSaint]

90% of all questions are statements in disguise.

Think about that fact and then look back over what you asked. You know the answer already. Do you really need validation?

 

[jmeredi]

Just wanna know what you guys have to say about this. I have my own opinion on this, but I'm always interested in other's opinons, just wanted to run this by some of the more experienced guys on here.

 

[Wyldfire]

Does she cut herself or have a lot of scars on her arms or elsewhere?

She sounds like she could have Borderline Personality Disorder. The vast majority of people who self-mutilate are Borderline. Is she suicidal or has she ever attempted suicide?

She sounds like she has something serious going on and you'd be wise to steer clear of her.

 

[jmeredi]

I don't think she has any scars on her. Shes really self conscious though, always askin me if she's pretty and if I thought she was fat. I've definitely ruled out a relationship with her and decdied just to be friends.

 

[flexion_]

I guess the more appropriate question is who cares? She is seeing someone else now. Or did I read that wrong?

Of course she is nutts but don't dwell on it if she has already moved on to the next person (called serial monogamy)

 

[Bible_Belt]

She's adopted and has never met her biological father.

The adoption could create the chonic fear of abandonment that is the hallmark of BPD.

You could just use her for sex, but BPDs have a way of stalking you or doing fun things like call the police on you for beating them - if you won't hit back, the BPD girl will hit herself and say you did it.

BPD girls see people as either all good or all bad, subject to change at any time. If you are on the good side, the sex is great. If you are on the bad side, you don't want her to know where you live or work.