Men dating single mommy are too clingy for her!

[MatureDJ]

http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/how-do-i-avoid-desperate-and-clingy-men/

Here is the problem I’ve had…we go out once (maybe twice) and have a good time. There’s some kissing involved (but no sex). We make plans to go out again. Over the next several days he calls me constantly, starts talking about wanting a commitment from me, about our future together, and basically freaks me out from wanting to even go out with him again. (And yes, this has happened at least three times recently.) I understand liking me and wanting to spend time with me, and hoping that things will go further. What I don’t understand is why they get so obsessive.

I’m a divorced mother with two young children, but I am not looking for someone to “rescue” me. I do want to be in a relationship, with the right person, and I do want to be married again. However, I am not going to jump into something so quickly that I am blindsided.

A single mommy has clingy men. Sheesh!

Are these men just so desperate that they don’t understand the fundamentals of dating? Any way I can avoid this in the future? It seems to be happening to me a lot recently.

They're already desperate enough to date a single double-mommy.

 

[Roober]

I think why men get needy is because single moms naturally come across as challenging. If the dad is part time (as most are), she has her kids 90% of the time. Naturally, she will only have an occasional weekend for you and maybe a night or two during the week. Because of this, I would even go on to suggest that most single mommies don't even think about serious relationships until their kids are older (8+). They may meet a great guy, but he will want to see her more than every two weeks. I know this was my problem. The issue is that those moms also want their alone time, which they only get every two weeks, so it becomes an internal struggle...

This makes sense why single mommies are great for plates, because they organically don't have time to f**k more than once a week or less. You could easily spin several at a time. Now, if she gets hooked and wants to bring you into her kid's life, then you have a decision to make...

What upsets me most about the whole thing is how dad's are perfectly okay with seeing their kid every two weeks or less... it really is a sad state.