My girlfriend and I one year together. Few months ago she met a guy at work and they went out as friends. I said her that it's not OK that she's going out alone with a new guy and she agreed with me. Today this guy asked her to go out with his friends to a club(she said she'll think about it) and I got angry that she wanted to go to a club with them although I trust her in 100%. In my opinion it's OK to meet new people but only doing it by meeting a group of people and not one on one(guy and girl), and that's why I got angry when she wanted to go to a club with this guy and his friends. How do you think I should react? Do you think I should talk to her and tell her about my "rules" on meeting new people?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DonJuanit0
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I know it's too much but I hardly let my gf go out with her group of friends! This group is like 5-6 guys and 1 more girl lol! I can't stand the idea that my girl will have other guys "checking her out" cause she wears a skirt or something! I am trying too much not to act jealously but some things are... The good thing is that I've made it and she has cut out the clubs and staff with her friends! At least she is not going 2-3 times a week like she used to before me! She doesn't seem to have a problem with it so everything is fine!
She could always be lying to me though but, c'est la vie!!
Anyway, my opinion is pretty clear! I wouldn't let her go! If she is beautiful it's like 90% that the guys will hit on her! I know you say you trust her, I trust mine too, I just can't stand the idea of others hit on my gf! =(
She could always be lying to me though but, c'est la vie!!
Anyway, my opinion is pretty clear! I wouldn't let her go! If she is beautiful it's like 90% that the guys will hit on her! I know you say you trust her, I trust mine too, I just can't stand the idea of others hit on my gf! =(
This is weak game.I know it's too much but I hardly let my gf go out with her group of friends! This group is like 5-6 guys and 1 more girl lol! I can't stand the idea that my girl will have other guys "checking her out" cause she wears a skirt or something! I am trying too much not to act jealously but some things are... The good thing is that I've made it and she has cut out the clubs and staff with her friends! At least she is not going 2-3 times a week like she used to before me! She doesn't seem to have a problem with it so everything is fine!
She could always be lying to me though but, c'est la vie!!
Anyway, my opinion is pretty clear! I wouldn't let her go! If she is beautiful it's like 90% that the guys will hit on her! I know you say you trust her, I trust mine too, I just can't stand the idea of others hit on my gf! =(
The only acceptable answer is to let her roam free. Do whatever she likes and she will come back to you in the end.
Being insecure and weak is not a solution. Having rules and principles and beliefs might sound strong, but its actually weakness and she knows it. Dont show her it bothers you, your showing her you are scared and insecure.Difficult but you cant control it.
Going out with a new guy and his friends is obviously crossing the line. By asking you this she is probably doing it to see how you react, she herself knows that is too much. You're disrespecting yourself if you let your girlfriend go out with other guys and party like she's single while you sit and wait for her. In this you need intervention.
Others might have another method but id do something like,
her: the guy asked me to out clubbing with him and hsi friends bla bla...
me: ok in that case, am i allowed to go out clubbing with different girls?
her: hmmm nooo bla bla...
me: are you sure, cos i could see if [girls name/her friends name] is free that night?
She wont go out in fear of me doing it to her. Girls are always more insecure deep down. In the small case that she agrees to me going out with girls also, say ok and do it. There's nothing else you can do, it probably means your relationship is heading to an end.
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that sounds a bit weird to be honest. how are things going with you and you're girlfriend?
some girls like hanging around with boys, doesn't mean you shouldnt trust them though. I've had girlfriends that have hung around with other blokes one on one, and it never bothered me. Its only when you notice the signs that she's treating you differently, that you should bring it up. And if it still bothers you, and things dont change, you have to bite the bullet sadly.
The worst thing you can do, is throw a tantrum about it, which i have learned to my expense previously, as it makes you look insecure and jealous. Not the confident male you should be.
On the other hand, the thing you should be doing is then spending time with your own friends as right now you may be too available to her. Do it back, be busy every night one week either by friends or work, and she'll realise what she's missing and come crawling back. They always come crawling back.
Be honest with yourself if things start to change for the bad. But remain aloof at all times, do not act up about it too much. If it really bothers you, and you tell her, but things dont change then jealousy will manifest itself and then things will go downhill. Resulting in eventually her losing interest as she'll see it as you being clingy. Which is why (if you need to break up over it) you can use her hanging around with too many men all the time as one of your reasons. That way, you havent got upset or thrown a tantrum, but you've stuck to your principles and she hasnt cut it.
That way, you come out looking the big swinging **** you are, as you dont let no woman put you on the side.
some girls like hanging around with boys, doesn't mean you shouldnt trust them though. I've had girlfriends that have hung around with other blokes one on one, and it never bothered me. Its only when you notice the signs that she's treating you differently, that you should bring it up. And if it still bothers you, and things dont change, you have to bite the bullet sadly.
The worst thing you can do, is throw a tantrum about it, which i have learned to my expense previously, as it makes you look insecure and jealous. Not the confident male you should be.
On the other hand, the thing you should be doing is then spending time with your own friends as right now you may be too available to her. Do it back, be busy every night one week either by friends or work, and she'll realise what she's missing and come crawling back. They always come crawling back.
Be honest with yourself if things start to change for the bad. But remain aloof at all times, do not act up about it too much. If it really bothers you, and you tell her, but things dont change then jealousy will manifest itself and then things will go downhill. Resulting in eventually her losing interest as she'll see it as you being clingy. Which is why (if you need to break up over it) you can use her hanging around with too many men all the time as one of your reasons. That way, you havent got upset or thrown a tantrum, but you've stuck to your principles and she hasnt cut it.
That way, you come out looking the big swinging **** you are, as you dont let no woman put you on the side.
Its a double edged sword. On one hand you want her "for yourself" I dont blame you because when Im with a girl she better be 100% mine cuz if she is out prowlin clubs with her hoe azz friends for some new d1ck...well sh1t brah, homie dont play dat.
What you need to realize is that you cant change the game a year into a relationship. And you cant turn a hoe into a wife. All you mofo's wifing up these club hoes who go out 3x a week. HAHAHAHAAHAH man you got yourself fked up son!
I think Ease has a good tactic to put to use...its the type of thing you need to do right at the beginning....setting "GROUND RULES". But not in that insecure clown azz fashion like most guys do.
Do it alpha style. Like "hey babe you wanna go do that? Ok sure go ahead...ill plan something else." like yo *****, 2 can play at that game.
What you need to realize is that you cant change the game a year into a relationship. And you cant turn a hoe into a wife. All you mofo's wifing up these club hoes who go out 3x a week. HAHAHAHAAHAH man you got yourself fked up son!
I think Ease has a good tactic to put to use...its the type of thing you need to do right at the beginning....setting "GROUND RULES". But not in that insecure clown azz fashion like most guys do.
Do it alpha style. Like "hey babe you wanna go do that? Ok sure go ahead...ill plan something else." like yo *****, 2 can play at that game.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.