"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Meeting Ex. How do I show my new found Alpha AND become FB

pinhas

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Hello,

I am going to meet my ex girlfriend for dinner/drinks soon to catch up and talk. We broke up about 3 months ago and did not really speak, except for some rare texts and e-mails. Few days ago out of the blue she emailed me telling me about some random stuff and checking in, and we emailed each other back and forth for about 2 days, and decided to just meet up and talk in person (did not talk about any past issues or anything to do with relationship).

Now, I was a quite an AFC when we were dating, after we broke up none of us was mad or hurt and we had a clean break. I was upset for a while but then I realized I needed to change, found this site and started working on myself and my DJ skills. (Work in progress)

When I will see her next, I want to be my new and improved self, show my newly found alpha-ness and show her what she is missing, I would also want to become FB with her, as she is very attractive and we always has good times…

My question to you guys is what is the best way to go about it; how should I show her I changed and how would be the best way to take it to the FB zone (I don’t want to get back together, I would with her in the future but I just don’t want a relationship now)

Thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well, part of being an alpha is not caring about what happens. Show her how awesome your life is without her, and you couldn't care less whether you guys hook up or not. Of course, you DO want to hook up, but don't let her know. If nothing happens when you guys meet up, disregard it and move on. This disinterest should pique her curiosity and make her want you more. Show her the attention she needs, however, and you'll be forsaken to the nether realms of LJBF.
 

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Your right, the best way is to just be my new and happy self and show her she missed out and not the other way around; I am the hottest party in town and she should get on line to get in!!

I will not be repeating the stupid AFC moves that I did when we were dating, looknig back I can not believe half the stuff I did or said.

What is it about girls that makes us act so dumb?
 

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pinhas said:
Your right, the best way is to just be my new and happy self and show her she missed out and not the other way around; I am the hottest party in town and she should get on line to get in!!

I will not be repeating the stupid AFC moves that I did when we were dating, looknig back I can not believe half the stuff I did or said.

What is it about girls that makes us act so dumb?
Might recommend, get other girls numbers to keep yourself occupied. This helps so your not always texting her and plus if something goes wrong and you can't get her, you still have thoses other girls.
 
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