may have ****ed it up too much? who knows...

[jpcastberg]

alright, so as of today, ive been dating this girl hannah for three months. our relationship started on the heels of a failing relationship for her, and like a year long dry spell for me. she dropped into my life like a bombshell, exactly my vision of what i thought a great girl would be. so i was reallllllllllly nice, doing this and that for her, and over time it really got to be too much. saying sorry too much, basically looking pathetic and willing to jump through hoops for her. i confessed my deep feelings too early, ****ed too early, etc. so right now, she probably isnt finding me exceedingly attractive. the articles on this website have helped tons, and im ready to start being the attractive, sexy man i want from myself. the thing is, ive already done all of this **** over the course of about 2 months, and i want to change what she thinks of me to keep this train a'rollin. i really want to keep this relationship, i know that there is potential for both of us to be really happy, and she isnt a replaceable girl. do you think its too late? have i already botched up her feelings for me, or can i change my game before its too late? please help.

John

 

[Van_The_Man]

So are you worried that she might break up with you? Cause if your still going out with her like you said, then maybe it isn't too late to gain back your manhood and take control of the relationship. Stop worrying so much about what you did in the past, learn from your mistakes and move forward.

 

[jpcastberg]

yeah, i'm still with her. one dilemma im in is...

now that ive put a little to much nice guy in my mix, should i just ween off the niceness, or straight cut it off? and go all insta-******* on her! :kick:

she is my first real real girlfriend that i give a damn about and not just dating because i have (had? ) low self esteem.

 

[Van_The_Man]

If you go all out and change you way of doing things you may either freak her out, or change her attitude towards you. Just stop doing what you said you were doing before and you should be fine. If she feels threatened by the new you then it's time to move on.

Yeah I know how it feels like to have low self esteem, and to have a girl that you really care about, just keep on remembering there are MILLIONS of them out there, waiting for a guy like you to step into their lives.