Maturity or Age?

[Deep Dish]

Tonight I was in a TGI Fridays restaurant having dinner at midnight. I don't like Fridays, but what's still open after I get off a second job at a restaurant is what is open. Anyway, I made two exchanges of lustful glances at two different ladies, who both seemed quite into me visually, which in itself is nothing really important except how it reminds me how interest by the ladies has skyrocketed over the past year and especially the last six months.

I'm 28. Everywhere I go, there I catch women checking me out. For years guys have always told me all the ladies check me out, but before I would never believe them because I couldn't see anything for myself, but now it's getting blatantly to my face and probably due to priority changes. But since I have achieved great interpersonal development over the past year overcoming some mental health issues, I can't but help wonder if all this interest comes from now doing things right or simply because of my age. I look younger than I am and I have an innocent boyish look going for me, which has its appeal, but maybe I'm now getting into the mature boyish look (e.g. the prime market). I'm also getting my life a lot more together, which undoubtedly is benefiting me.

So, I'm curious if any of you geniuses have been in the same situation and any insights to gain from it?

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Deep Dish,


The answer to your question MIGHT be as simple as now that you are no longer as preoccupied and/or distracted with yourself and the severity of your past issues------your awareness of what's going on around you has increased.

You are now FREE to move about the "whole" of your life, in a much more expansive way.

You have become a man who no longer "squints" his way through life out of a necessity to maintain a narrower focus due to past mental health issues.

You are no longer a man who sees only "glimpses" of the fullness of his life through his peripheral vision.

But rather, you are becoming a man who is growing more and more comfortable with seeing the world around him with eyes wide open.

So ironically, the answer may not be maturity OR age------instead, it could very well be "FOCUS".

But whatever the case...

Well done, soldier.


VU

 

[STR8UP]

Keep yourself in shape, and if you can't believe it now, when you hit 33-35 you will be absolutely blown away by the attention you get from women, especially YOUNGER women.

As you know, i went through a rough time in the recent past. I don't care what women say- the biggest turn-off isn't ****iness or bad breath, it's a man who is DOWN IN THE DUMPS.

Now that I'm starting to pull myself back up, starting to get out and do things, starting a new business venture, starting to travel a little bit more (although it's due to business), I'm shedding that negative energy that's been surrounding me and women are beginning to take notice.

As long as you are on an upward trajectory your stock in the mating game goes up every year, at least through your 30's and 40's. I'll be 37 next month and it feels good to be back in the game.

Enjoy.....you have a long, interesting ride ahead of you my friend.

 

[DJDamage]

Funny that you mentioned it cause I went back to school in my late 20's and I notice that the chicks give me more looks and more respect.

I am also guilty of using my charm to have chicks do nice stuff for me. This year I haven't paid anything for my books. I just strike conversations with various women (some even older then me) in my program who already took my courses and ask them without a shame if I could have their books this year. You should see their faces light and their eagerness to do nice stuff for me (even though I know there is alternative reasoning behind their niceness and that is to get close to me, which I am not interested cause they aren't hot enough). Its almost laughable how 10 years ago, hot chicks were using me to do stuff for them and now everything is in reverse. Now that I understand what those chicks did to me 10 years ago, I am not bitter anymore but more understanding of their nature.

As you become more successful and better at this game, you become more wanted and desirable similar to the position the hot chicks you couldn't get in highschool or the early years in college.

 

[Luveno]

As you know, i went through a rough time in the recent past. I don't care what women say- the biggest turn-off isn't ****iness or bad breath, it's a man who is DOWN IN THE DUMPS.

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This is very true. Nobody, man or woman, wants to be around a loser.