She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Real life isn't like the movies, for you to be able to take on multiple opponents will take years and years of training (we're talking 20 - 30 years) and even then you'll probably get your ass kicked if they all jump you at the same time.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Originally posted by AFK Protector
I'm gonna rent some boxing/judo/aikido/bjj/etc. videos next weekend. That should help me decide. Yea...I don't think 3 peeps are gonna jump me, and if they do, I'm phucked unless I've got a gun and camera weilding buddy.
I hope you're safe. I was just conveying something and you come up with sarcasm like this. you took on three people with a hockey stick and showed your kung fu, why the need for boxing, judo, etc? She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.