"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Market having to do with location?

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For those who have been around in a bunch of different areas, have you ever realized that it seems just so much easier to close in one location than another?

I listen to a podcast where the host will occasionally tell listeners to mack where their market is which I thought was BS till I started to look at my own results over the years.

Now, I used to think if you are a good PUA you should be able to get the same results across the board.

But then after my own personal experience and also noticing some ridiculous numbers for some lay reports (guy closes 8 girls in Manila in 2 weeks then goes on to close like 1 in 2 months in Bangkok..both the same difficulty in terms of closing I'm thinking) it seems that numbers can really be influenced just by where you are.

Therefore I am beginning to support the notion of market not only being in terms of girl types but also in your actual location. What do you think, is location a big factor? (when comparing 2 similar locations not some crap where you compare your results in Venice Beach vs. North K0rea)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Orlando. I've lived in burbs, and downtown. In the burbs, I had to drive 1.5 miles before I saw any civilization, save for illegal mexicans mowing lawns.

Downtown I could walk out my door, stand on the sidewalk and wait for a bangable chick to walk by to spit some game at.


Rochester, NY is the same way. If you're not near one of the colleges, or where the young people live, you might as well go back to your playstation and match.com.
 

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scrouds said:
Rochester, NY is the same way. If you're not near one of the colleges, or where the young people live, you might as well go back to your playstation and match.com.
I was born in Rochester and I havent been back since 1999...Real Talk!!
 

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Of course location matters. Lots of guys are blind to reality with this "A PUA or DJ should be able to get chics anywhere BS".

Like you said, it's a market. And a the best marketing mix covers

product
price
place
promotion
 

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Dude location matters alot at least for me. I live in Miami and believe me I think its one of if not the hardest places to game chics if you are not visibly wealthy or have a high degree of social status/proof.

Forget about looks. Good looking guys/pretty boys/hard bodies are a dime a dozen here.

I would rate myself an 8.5 yet I cant say with a straight face that Im pulling even moderately hot women on a consistent basis.

When I travel abroad, its a totally different story. I seem to attract women without trying.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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gaspipe said:
Dude location matters alot at least for me. I live in Miami and believe me I think its one of if not the hardest places to game chics if you are not visibly wealthy or have a high degree of social status/proof.

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miami is tough dude..if you're not leaning against a Bugatti while chatting a hottie then you're getting no play...white linen shirts help as well.
 

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gaspipe said:
Dude location matters alot at least for me. I live in Miami and believe me I think its one of if not the hardest places to game chics if you are not visibly wealthy or have a high degree of social status/proof.

Forget about looks. Good looking guys/pretty boys/hard bodies are a dime a dozen here.

I would rate myself an 8.5 yet I cant say with a straight face that Im pulling even moderately hot women on a consistent basis.

When I travel abroad, its a totally different story. I seem to attract women without trying.
x2 for Atlanta. Its pretty much the same here. Very materialistic and status driven. Tons of 30,000 a year millionaires. Flashy cars, clothes, and McMansions. In my area a BMW or Mercedes is like a Camry, everyone drives one.

Women here are spoiled for dates, attention, and money.
Guys with pretty faces and muscles are a dime a dozen. My buddy who once modeled in L.A. was in a dry spell for nearly a year. The party girls ignored him since he worked as an accountant and the normal chicks wanted nothing to do with him as he was too busy working and studying to constantly chase and court them.

I would highly recommend Atlanta if you want a serious relationship and don't mind the chasing and courting. The women here eat that sh*t up. Not a great place to casually date or spin plates though unless you're rich or a celebrity.
 

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sstype said:
. In my area a BMW or Mercedes is like a Camry, .
sounds like Buckhead
 

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Burroughs said:
sounds like Buckhead
Im wedged in between Dunwoody and East Cobb....Buckhead is a few miles southeast of where I live. The entire north Atlanta area close to the perimeter is where all the wealth resides.

Most women here don't play around. Many of them moved from NYC and other cities to settle and find a boyfriend/husband. The only guys here getting "action" either get it from their gfs/wives or from status obsessed groupies.

An average or even above average guy is going to have a difficult time living the "casanova" lifestyle here.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Location Location Location I guess.. I was hoping to swing by Miami and Atlanta some time but it looks like you need to roll with some status symbols if you wanna get a lot of play.

I would assume that a place where hot girls are a dime a dozen would be alot easier too (Taipei).

Some places have dimes, but not a lot.. and then an army of successful men trying to game them (Miami?). Seems then, that Boston and NYC would be better as the actual ratio of HB7-10 is less skewed.
 
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