Male Pattern Blindness

[wookielust]

Has anyone got any info on Male Pattern Blindness, 'cos I seem to have a really bad case of it.

I just never notice that a girl is attracted to me until it's too late... In fact, I think that most of the time I actually DO notice that the girl is interested, but I just do my best to pretend like it's not happening. Does anyone have any idea why this happens and what I can do to overcome it?

Thanks,

T

 

[Tazman]

It happens because of fear, but you can prevent it through practice. I STILL do it out of fear because I always want things to flow a certain way before I start showing some interest but chicks have their own time table. It usually happens like this:

I see chick, I think she's attractive

I notice chick noticing me

I try and make eye contact with chick to show her I like what I see

I try and say "hello" to chick to see what type of response I get

Chick usually can't make eye contact up close, probably because of nerves

I don't say anything to chick because I like making eye contact before I speak

I ignore chick because I get annoyed that I can't say hello to her like a normal person

I bump into chick unexpectedly and recieve a big smile, maybe even a hello

I'm shocked because I never got that response before, but I don't really do anything (if she says hi I'll say hello but I've lost momentum) because I was intent on ignoring chick out of frustration

Chick probably feels rejected that I didn't respond the way she'd hoped and goes back to looking from afar or even trying to ignore me to save face

And this cycle continues with other chicks I see, over and over again

They do this to feign disinterest. That's why everyone tells you it's the guy's job to approach, basically most women will not initiate anything, especially if they're attracted to you because they fear being rejected. The smile I got when I bumped into this one chick was probably her last ditch effort to see what I'd do because I had started ignoring her, notice she didn't do it when I was trying to get near her to casually say hello.

 

[Tazman]

Also, this usually happens with chicks I think are cute or are really attractive in some way. I can't tell you how many times I get obvious staring or attempts made to get close to me by chicks I don't like. Some even to the point of pissing me off because I want the chicks I find attractive to do the same, but they don't.

 

[mrRuckus]

They do this to feign disinterest. That's why everyone tells you it's the guy's job to approach, basically most women will not initiate anything, especially if they're attracted to you because they fear being rejected.

This almost drives me not to want to talk to them. Why the hell should I have to get over my fear but they don't? They sit on their safe little pedestals looking down on guys and acting all hoity toity having a grand time blowing guys off. But when they're attracted to a guy they do the same sh1t that the guys do and that's supposed to be okay. Stupid h0s.

Good let her go home and b1tch she can't get a good guy.

Yeah yeah i know i know no point in complaining... suck it up.


I had a grand time the other night talking to a friend of mine who doesn't live anywhere near me anymore. He's out in san francisco complaining to me about his club experiences... and it's just fun (he's 30) telling a guy a few years older than me how sh1t works... about b1tch shields and not putting them on a pedestal and being different than every other guy there and disarming the woman and isolating her and teasing her and all that. And he just sits there like "wow man you are so right. That's exactly what I see that works - i just never thought about it."

 

[Tazman]

This almost drives me not to want to talk to them. Why the hell should I have to get over my fear but they don't?

Think about it like this. If you had women coming on to you on a regular or even semi-regular basis, and all you had to do was choose which one to go out with, would you be chasing women? You wouldn't have to, they'd come to you, in fact, you wouldn't even have to face rejection because they wouldn't have asked you out if they weren't interested in the first place.

Thats why the women you see asking guys out or who are generally just more aggressive are the women who aren't getting the guys they want. So they may put a little more effort into getting a guys attention. The women who get their pick of many men they find worthy, absolutely do not ask guys out, ever. If a woman feels like you are better than her current interest, even if she's real hot, may flirt heavier than usual or become a bit of an attention *****, but they usually will not make any obvious moves unless they're desperate to get away from their man. Some would rather stay with a partner they don't like all that much rather than risk being rejected by someone the like.

Don't let it get to you though, this is just how things are, if you want ***** you have to go get it. Just don't allow yourself to be strung along if you're not getting what you want out of it. Don't let any woman tease you to death.