"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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making yourself unattractive to one girl only?

kontrol freak

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my first post so go easy ;)


anyone have any advice to share on how to make a girl, well, not like you anymore? but at the same time (it's a very popular girl in question here) not get a bad rep with all the decent girls at school?

this one individual, i can't even remember her name, and i've only spoken to her on three occaisions in my entire life, came up to me out of nowhere and suddenly gave me a very desperate sounding 'i like you will you go out with me' talk. however, she obviously had to build up a ****load of courage to talk to me so there was no way i could just say 'no' there and then. instead i avoided giving her any definite answer (and any other way she can contact me thank god) but no doubt i will be seeing her around again soon :(

so what's the best thing to do? to shake off girls without becoming an ******* or making it too uncomfortable for both people?? this is the third time this year that this exact same situation has happened and i need to start doi9ng this properly :(
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DumpaLumpagus

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Talk to her like you would talk to any person you met off the street. Do not avoid her, rather take a neutral stance and avoid any kind of sexual communication. This way she will tire of you naturally and move on. I hope you only use this power for good, grasshoppa.
 

kontrol freak

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but won't that take time? i don't want to be friends with her which is what you're suggesting would lead to right? i'm after a solution that would make her thoroughly disappear!
 

immrtlwun

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I guess you could call it the curse of being a DJ. You attract some girls that you don't want. Anyway, just treat her like a friend and eventually, she will see you that way.
It would probably help to have someone like her as a friend. If she's popular, odds are she has hot friends for you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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frisco

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Why would you want to be unattractive to a populat girl thats just wasting so many oppourtunities
 

dannyc

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Just dont give her a definite answer back and she will just get the message. Thats what i did at school to a UG and it worked.
 

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talk to her just like a normal person.do nothing that might make her think you are intrested in going out with her.
 
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