LionFox
Don Juan
Here's a few things I've learn lately..
I don't know how to cold approach. Wasn't born with the gift for it, and overall just don't like it. Want to Learn it, but am working slowly towards it. Fortunately, I've developed a wide circle of friends and acquaintances so I'm always meeting new women through life.
So, if you know you'll be seeing her again beside one night at the bar, here's my tip:
Make Yourself The Best Moment of Her Day. Repeatedly
Think about it. How much of the day do you spend just going through the motions of greeting people you really feel you could say hello to or not say hello to. How much of the day do you spend really listening to what a person says? Showing genuine interest in that person's life? How many people do you have boring conversations with for 2-5 minutes and then forget them as soon as they are over?
Now think about the people you really like. The people in your life who make you feel good, who you want to be around and are interested in. They've either done something for you that you are grateful for, or they are charismatically interested in what you have to say.
It's that simple. Be interested in THEM, not fake interest, but REAL interested.
Ass kissing and subservience, gift giving, and "AFC behavior" is born out of a lack of self confidence. You say "I couldn't possibly be good enough to just have that person like me for me, so I must have a gimmick or gift to make this interesting person want to spend time with me." You have to show real interest in that person, but the thing is you have to maintain YOUR RESPECT for yourself.
Because all people have a need to belong and feel appreciated, desired, and loved. And people form decisions really quickly. So if you start tapping into that need, you will have a person who generally likes you and respects you.
Try it. It's hard sometimes, because you've got to go outside yourself, lose that self consciousness, quit caring about yourself for just a few minutes a day and enter that other person's world. And if you do it with respect for yourself and her, confidence, and charisma, she will love you for it. Every time. Simple.
I don't know how to cold approach. Wasn't born with the gift for it, and overall just don't like it. Want to Learn it, but am working slowly towards it. Fortunately, I've developed a wide circle of friends and acquaintances so I'm always meeting new women through life.
So, if you know you'll be seeing her again beside one night at the bar, here's my tip:
Make Yourself The Best Moment of Her Day. Repeatedly
Think about it. How much of the day do you spend just going through the motions of greeting people you really feel you could say hello to or not say hello to. How much of the day do you spend really listening to what a person says? Showing genuine interest in that person's life? How many people do you have boring conversations with for 2-5 minutes and then forget them as soon as they are over?
Now think about the people you really like. The people in your life who make you feel good, who you want to be around and are interested in. They've either done something for you that you are grateful for, or they are charismatically interested in what you have to say.
It's that simple. Be interested in THEM, not fake interest, but REAL interested.
Ass kissing and subservience, gift giving, and "AFC behavior" is born out of a lack of self confidence. You say "I couldn't possibly be good enough to just have that person like me for me, so I must have a gimmick or gift to make this interesting person want to spend time with me." You have to show real interest in that person, but the thing is you have to maintain YOUR RESPECT for yourself.
Because all people have a need to belong and feel appreciated, desired, and loved. And people form decisions really quickly. So if you start tapping into that need, you will have a person who generally likes you and respects you.
Try it. It's hard sometimes, because you've got to go outside yourself, lose that self consciousness, quit caring about yourself for just a few minutes a day and enter that other person's world. And if you do it with respect for yourself and her, confidence, and charisma, she will love you for it. Every time. Simple.