When one realizes their AFC tendencies, it becomes apparent to them that these habits must be repaired, or replaced, by behavior more becoming of a successful man.
Although I am certain that there is extensive philosophy written about the following topic, I am going to forego it to present a streamlined approach.
The rule is:
BE PATIENT
Old sayings stick around for a reason. Most of the time there is truth to them. "Patience is a virtue" is one of these such sayings that has withstanded the test of time, and it is indeed very true.
RAFC guys have a tendency to try to jump into a girls comfort zone too soon, thus defeating any rapport that has been established.
When a true AFC discovers that listening to a girl whine about her problems does not bode well for future sex with this girl, he decides to adopt habits that are the complete opposite. Mainly:
"Do not talk to a girl or establish rapport, but rather go in for the kill and get numbers/lays as fast as possible."
and
"A girl I have established rapport with has given me her number, so I'm going to call it as soon as possible, to make sure that the rapport is still fresh"
These are the wrong attitudes to have.
Concerning the first attitude: Girls are, in essence, 99% genetically identical to you. They differ in one chromosome, but they are still people(gasp) that need to have a reason to extend contact with you further. Just walking around acting like you're the **** of the walk won't get you very far. You need to be able to converse and tease(and I'm not talking canned Neg hits) a girl enough so that she finds you entertaining and interesting enough to establish contact with.
The only way to successfully do this is to PRACTICE. Cold approach whenever you can. There are no rules to the art of conversation. One has to just learn it the hard way to get it. Once you got it though, it sticks for good, like walking. We are hard wired to speak and respond, so augment your neuronal connections!
Men should ask for phone numbers when the conversation is at its peak. Once the number is acquired, the man should wind the convo up and go do something else. It's always good to leave on a high note!
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Concerning the second attitude: If a man has done everything successfully and acquired the number, he should not make it point#1 to call it!
Men are supposed to have lives that do not revolve around the woman. Think about it in an evolutionary standpoint: If the man was to constantly communicate with the woman, rather than protect her, the tribe wouldn't last very long. It is the right thing to do to have YOUR OWN LIFE as the first priority, not hers.
More importantly, by waiting a while(there is no set day, just call later when you have time) you keep her thinking about the rapport you had when you first met her. It's like she's meeting you over and over again in her own mind. Since she had a positive experience with you the first time, she will be only augmenting her desire to be in your company. Therefore, when you actually do call her, it will be a treat for her and she will want to meet you again, without flaking or anything of the sort.
For instance: I met this very gorgeous European girl at the club the other night. We exchanged emails after having a great conversation about our native languages. I didn't contact her immediately. On the contrary, I waited for a while(about 5 days). Lo and behold, I got an email from her later on that week asking me out for a date.
Let her play out the positive rapport in her mind. Do not rush it. Be patient.
These are theories that have served me well, and will serve you well in the future if you follow them. Good luck.
Although I am certain that there is extensive philosophy written about the following topic, I am going to forego it to present a streamlined approach.
The rule is:
BE PATIENT
Old sayings stick around for a reason. Most of the time there is truth to them. "Patience is a virtue" is one of these such sayings that has withstanded the test of time, and it is indeed very true.
RAFC guys have a tendency to try to jump into a girls comfort zone too soon, thus defeating any rapport that has been established.
When a true AFC discovers that listening to a girl whine about her problems does not bode well for future sex with this girl, he decides to adopt habits that are the complete opposite. Mainly:
"Do not talk to a girl or establish rapport, but rather go in for the kill and get numbers/lays as fast as possible."
and
"A girl I have established rapport with has given me her number, so I'm going to call it as soon as possible, to make sure that the rapport is still fresh"
These are the wrong attitudes to have.
Concerning the first attitude: Girls are, in essence, 99% genetically identical to you. They differ in one chromosome, but they are still people(gasp) that need to have a reason to extend contact with you further. Just walking around acting like you're the **** of the walk won't get you very far. You need to be able to converse and tease(and I'm not talking canned Neg hits) a girl enough so that she finds you entertaining and interesting enough to establish contact with.
The only way to successfully do this is to PRACTICE. Cold approach whenever you can. There are no rules to the art of conversation. One has to just learn it the hard way to get it. Once you got it though, it sticks for good, like walking. We are hard wired to speak and respond, so augment your neuronal connections!
Men should ask for phone numbers when the conversation is at its peak. Once the number is acquired, the man should wind the convo up and go do something else. It's always good to leave on a high note!
---------
Concerning the second attitude: If a man has done everything successfully and acquired the number, he should not make it point#1 to call it!
Men are supposed to have lives that do not revolve around the woman. Think about it in an evolutionary standpoint: If the man was to constantly communicate with the woman, rather than protect her, the tribe wouldn't last very long. It is the right thing to do to have YOUR OWN LIFE as the first priority, not hers.
More importantly, by waiting a while(there is no set day, just call later when you have time) you keep her thinking about the rapport you had when you first met her. It's like she's meeting you over and over again in her own mind. Since she had a positive experience with you the first time, she will be only augmenting her desire to be in your company. Therefore, when you actually do call her, it will be a treat for her and she will want to meet you again, without flaking or anything of the sort.
For instance: I met this very gorgeous European girl at the club the other night. We exchanged emails after having a great conversation about our native languages. I didn't contact her immediately. On the contrary, I waited for a while(about 5 days). Lo and behold, I got an email from her later on that week asking me out for a date.
Let her play out the positive rapport in her mind. Do not rush it. Be patient.
These are theories that have served me well, and will serve you well in the future if you follow them. Good luck.