You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
). Overall, though, it'd probably be a lot more practical to just get out there in real social situations and gain real experience. Some people seem to have a lot of success with affirmation excercises too, and that would be easier and probably more effective than trying to have lucid dreams.I have tried lucid dreaming a few years ago I was really into it but I find that it's quite difficult to achieve. I do have lucid dreams, maybe 3 or 4 times a month (the ones that I can remember). That's without trying at all though, I haven't given it as much thought as I used to but I still have them.
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