LTR wants us for life - advice welcome

[Lion]

Hi, me and my girl have been together for 2 years now. She's a good person and very attentive, intelligent and sweet. Lately I have been feeling strongly about myself and how I can live my life.

I feel that I am able to be single, without needing anyone.

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I live with my elders and they are most important to me, then my career.

My career has not been a smooth ride and recently I was laid off. Now I am looking to get a good job and back on track, working harder than ever.
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My girl came round to tell me how much she wants to be with me for the rest of her life, marriage, family and how I am the 1.

This was a very beautiful thing to hear but she was asking me how I felt.

I feel that I am too young (both 24) to feel the same way but I do care very much about her. We love each other. She confessed she wants to see me more often and she is worried I will get bored of her.

I feel that I only need to see her a few times a week, sometimes we only see each other once a week - I don't mind but she finds this very difficult.

Tomorrow we are doing something fun together, I told her to go home today.
We both shed some tears.

I feel like if we decide to part, I will lose someone very special, but if we continue she will always doubt my feelings for her, need reassurance.



P.S. This may be well placed in the Mature Man section.

Thanks

 

[jophil28]

YOu do not need to do anything at all. You have a woman who has very high interest level in you and wants to be with you . Women like this do not leave guys like you UNTIL you start trying to please them by changing yourself into what you THINK they want. .
Maintain the tension in your relationship at all costs. .

 

[Lion]

Thanks man, some strong advice.

I am split down the middle.

Part of me wants to experience other girls, learn more about myself.

Part of me knows my girl is good and I care about her a lot. No need to lose her if that makes sense? Talented, intelligent, I could see myself with her in the future as a life partner.

It's like I want to move on now, try other girls, then meet someone like her in the future... but nobody's perfect right?

 

[Metacomet]

If you can 'see yourself' with her in the future - then don't blow it

You like her but you feel you're too young to sign yourself over. Fvcking obvious mate, we are all males right?

Never the less if YOU like the girl and YOU aren't tired of her than keep her around. I agree with keeping the tension :] Don't tell her you want to marry her or that she's the one... that's what she REALLY wants to hear but once you say it : you know what will happen.

It's the fact that you probably love this girl (don't lie) and have yet to sign your life away to her OR give her ALL of your time that she is crazy about you. Think about it.

BTW: 24 is not 'mature' is it? Yikes.

 

[Jitterbug]

Are you sure you want to get married in the UK with all those man-hating marriage laws?