Hello Gentleman...
I have been in an LTR with a woman for about 14 months now, and am starting to see some possible cracks in the relationship.
She has become increasingly more needy it seems. I spend a pretty fair amount of time at her place when I do not have my kids - Our custody schedules lines up quite nicely and we share every other weekend without kids. When my kids are with me, we go about a week without seeing each other.
A couple weeks ago, I had an unexpected free night without my kids during our usual week apart. It was on a night that I had an outside obligation that I knew wouldn't end until nearly 11PM. I have to be at work by 7AM the following day...
When my girlfriend found out that my kids were away and I didn't plan to go to her place after my obligation, she got really bent out of shape about it. She was acting like I don't make her a priority, blah blah blah. Fact is, I was tired, didn't have time to get my stuff together to stay at her place, had to work early the next AM, etc.
I explained all of this to her, but she seemed genuinely hurt and pissed. I told her my reasons for not coming by and she seemed to tone it down a bit. I told her that I really do enjoy spending time with her, and that I want her to feel she's getting what she needs and that if I can give her the amount of time she needs maybe she needs something else...
I wasn't threatening about it, I really want her to have what she needs/wants, but I have my life to live too and don't need to catch bs from her about it. All this bs after I spent almost the entire week prior over at her place...
I see this as a recent reoccurring trend with her... Aside from this crap, we really get along pretty well - she's a great gal overall.
Here's what I find strange... Despite her seemingly needy behavior with me of late, my gut seems to have sensed her interest is slipping. I've pulled back a bit (cut some of the messages, etc), but really not sure what's up here? Any ideas?
I have been in an LTR with a woman for about 14 months now, and am starting to see some possible cracks in the relationship.
She has become increasingly more needy it seems. I spend a pretty fair amount of time at her place when I do not have my kids - Our custody schedules lines up quite nicely and we share every other weekend without kids. When my kids are with me, we go about a week without seeing each other.
A couple weeks ago, I had an unexpected free night without my kids during our usual week apart. It was on a night that I had an outside obligation that I knew wouldn't end until nearly 11PM. I have to be at work by 7AM the following day...
When my girlfriend found out that my kids were away and I didn't plan to go to her place after my obligation, she got really bent out of shape about it. She was acting like I don't make her a priority, blah blah blah. Fact is, I was tired, didn't have time to get my stuff together to stay at her place, had to work early the next AM, etc.
I explained all of this to her, but she seemed genuinely hurt and pissed. I told her my reasons for not coming by and she seemed to tone it down a bit. I told her that I really do enjoy spending time with her, and that I want her to feel she's getting what she needs and that if I can give her the amount of time she needs maybe she needs something else...
I wasn't threatening about it, I really want her to have what she needs/wants, but I have my life to live too and don't need to catch bs from her about it. All this bs after I spent almost the entire week prior over at her place...
I see this as a recent reoccurring trend with her... Aside from this crap, we really get along pretty well - she's a great gal overall.
Here's what I find strange... Despite her seemingly needy behavior with me of late, my gut seems to have sensed her interest is slipping. I've pulled back a bit (cut some of the messages, etc), but really not sure what's up here? Any ideas?
