Gentlemen, I want to first say this is a great forum and its good to see men wanting to improve their game. I usually can overcome any woman's tests, manipulations and challenges. In fact I have no issues of getting numbers, meeting women and sealing the deal. However this certain situation I ended up giving away the game without even knowing it.
Last week I met this woman at an event, she was in town for business and automatically we hit it off. It went so well that she ended up giving me her room key and the night was accomplished. The next day we spent half the day together, she was hooked and I thought I had this in the bag however she informed me she was leaving to go back home that same day, the UK. My first reaction was this was a fling, whatever let it go but as I spent the day with her I started to become interested, then starting to want to invest in her. I was angry at myself knowing that the odds are not good and I would be wasting my time. Her feminine being, sarcastic remarks and being incredibly smart just built attraction every minute. She would kiss me randomly, tell me she adores me and wanted to stay in touch. She was optimistic that something could happen and I am buying into it.
As I dropped her off at the airport, I asked myself "What just happened?". We continued to text, she reflected many times about laying next to me again..etc. It was like heroin, my masculinity was deflating and I couldn't believe how much I was into this woman. For the first time ever I started to get excited whenever she text me, who am I?? Later that week, my texts became less important to her, she canceled our skype "date" but still occasionally text me. Shes a busy woman, has two businesses and attends many events however I am a firm believer that if you're interested in someone or something, you'll do what it takes to keep it going.
Yesterday, she reached out to me to share an article written about her and at this time we didn't talk for a couple days, I started to regain my "game" but then the phone call happened and it went great in the beginning, I was being ****y funny and being unpredictable up until the "uh oh" moment. Out of nowhere my insecurities came into effect and I haven't had this feeling since I was in middle school, reminder I am 28. I asked her what she felt about our situation since coming back. I confessed how amazed I am about her and how I am never like this. I soon covered my mouth not knowing what words came out. She expressed how it was more than a lovely experience however we live half way around the world, been together for two days and that she doesn't know about the situation. Basically expressing that she is interested but not investing. I felt like the chick and that's when I realized all this time I allowed her to control the game.
I am still into this woman and yes on paper it doesn't look good however I want to draw her into me. I became the chaser and now I have to lean back. Since her and I are just texting, I know it starts with building that emotional connection again and get back to my game. Keep her curious and to want to see me. I could fly there, she can fly here but I know I haven't built enough connection for her to crave it.
My question to you gentlemen, where do I start from here? Do I wait a couple days then reach out to her by sending an emotional connected text? Play coy? I look forward to your responses.
Last week I met this woman at an event, she was in town for business and automatically we hit it off. It went so well that she ended up giving me her room key and the night was accomplished. The next day we spent half the day together, she was hooked and I thought I had this in the bag however she informed me she was leaving to go back home that same day, the UK. My first reaction was this was a fling, whatever let it go but as I spent the day with her I started to become interested, then starting to want to invest in her. I was angry at myself knowing that the odds are not good and I would be wasting my time. Her feminine being, sarcastic remarks and being incredibly smart just built attraction every minute. She would kiss me randomly, tell me she adores me and wanted to stay in touch. She was optimistic that something could happen and I am buying into it.
As I dropped her off at the airport, I asked myself "What just happened?". We continued to text, she reflected many times about laying next to me again..etc. It was like heroin, my masculinity was deflating and I couldn't believe how much I was into this woman. For the first time ever I started to get excited whenever she text me, who am I?? Later that week, my texts became less important to her, she canceled our skype "date" but still occasionally text me. Shes a busy woman, has two businesses and attends many events however I am a firm believer that if you're interested in someone or something, you'll do what it takes to keep it going.
Yesterday, she reached out to me to share an article written about her and at this time we didn't talk for a couple days, I started to regain my "game" but then the phone call happened and it went great in the beginning, I was being ****y funny and being unpredictable up until the "uh oh" moment. Out of nowhere my insecurities came into effect and I haven't had this feeling since I was in middle school, reminder I am 28. I asked her what she felt about our situation since coming back. I confessed how amazed I am about her and how I am never like this. I soon covered my mouth not knowing what words came out. She expressed how it was more than a lovely experience however we live half way around the world, been together for two days and that she doesn't know about the situation. Basically expressing that she is interested but not investing. I felt like the chick and that's when I realized all this time I allowed her to control the game.
I am still into this woman and yes on paper it doesn't look good however I want to draw her into me. I became the chaser and now I have to lean back. Since her and I are just texting, I know it starts with building that emotional connection again and get back to my game. Keep her curious and to want to see me. I could fly there, she can fly here but I know I haven't built enough connection for her to crave it.
My question to you gentlemen, where do I start from here? Do I wait a couple days then reach out to her by sending an emotional connected text? Play coy? I look forward to your responses.
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