Losing Interest Or just getting comfortable?

[guayaballer]

there is this girl i have been dating for over a month. and everything was great, we worked togther she practically picked me up. we would see eachother at work and she would text me all the time sending kisses and calling me sexy and my love and all that. fast fwd i leave the job she stays we dont see eachother all the time but always talk. ive noticed that i dont make her laugh as hard an as much as before. but we still kiss makeout and have sex i feel as if shes losing interest or maybe infact shes just getting comfortable with me. yesterday for xmass she gave me a brand new guitar and i was the only one tht got a gift from her, she said her gift to herself was giving it to me. then i took her on a trip to a ski resort and we didnt go sking cus we ended up having sex and got to the resort late. my main problem is communicating with her how i feel it gets her really mad that i dont speak my mind, but its because i am more of an introvert. and her mother also says im too quiet. I need to change this fast and get the attraction up and win her mother at the same time. I am trying to go back to my passions but wont the sudden change from seeing and talking to her all the time change something? or is it possible totransition from seein her all the time to every now and then.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Umm my girlfriend and i dated for 6 months and have been official for 3. During that time we talk to each other MORE. I dont know how you get a lose of intrest confused with getting comfortable.

 

[abcd_z]

I need to change this fast and get the attraction up and win her mother at the same time.

No, you don't. You really, really don't. Don't listen to what she says, don't listen to what her mother says, they don't know how to build and maintain attraction within relationships. Women don't know what women NEED, they only know what they WANT. The two are almost never the same thing.

If you feel like your GF is pulling away, let her. Go do your own thing and don't worry about her too much. The very fact that you have other options makes you attractive. The fact that you're hanging on, afraid to lose her, makes you unattractive. Which do you want to be?

Oh, and for the love of God, do NOT verbalize that you feel her behavior is wrong. It never helps. EVER. Instead, focus on improving yourself and losing any trace of neediness you might have. Live in your own reality and let her in to the extent you feel is appropriate, as opposed to being defined by her reality. It's harder than it sounds, but it's totally worth it.