met this girl few months back when I was plate spinning (she's a colleague) back then I was kind of interested before getting depressed and later on dropping everything including the other 3 . after that I continued talking to her both online and in person almost on a daily basis as friends . the main problem is that I continued treating her the same way since having that incident and not like I was supposed to .Right now I'm interested in her she's a 8.5-9 without that much maintenance I used to come across in her tier. had a good friend (close to her) tell me she saw someone a couple of times not long ago that didn't work out and that she didn't mention to me whatsoever and that she said she was interested in one of her exes .
so should I :
1) I don"t ask her out and just move on by reducing time talking to her by 90% forgetting I ever had anything in mind and never bringing it up again , If I take this path there is some chances that maybe in the far future we could get back to what we once were but that is noway happening in the next months.
2 ) I ask her out and if I take this path she either says yes (**) or she could say no and I go on reducing time spent with her to 0% in the short term and maybe raise it to 5 to 10% max in the next month or so
and even if she says yes , I'm afraid things could go south and she chose to accept just to play the this didn't work out like this hopping we could get back to an earlier version and the whole date just goes awkward af .
and is there a way I could know if she's in for the real thing or just playing it to minimize the down side ?
so should I :
1) I don"t ask her out and just move on by reducing time talking to her by 90% forgetting I ever had anything in mind and never bringing it up again , If I take this path there is some chances that maybe in the far future we could get back to what we once were but that is noway happening in the next months.
2 ) I ask her out and if I take this path she either says yes (**) or she could say no and I go on reducing time spent with her to 0% in the short term and maybe raise it to 5 to 10% max in the next month or so
and even if she says yes , I'm afraid things could go south and she chose to accept just to play the this didn't work out like this hopping we could get back to an earlier version and the whole date just goes awkward af .
and is there a way I could know if she's in for the real thing or just playing it to minimize the down side ?
