"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Kallaz

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Someone Much cooler said:
@ the OP you look fine. You on campus, be social w/ everyone. Become the guy to know. Join a club of something your good at. Being black has its pros/cons. since your on campus the cons dont apply. Like someone else said, blacks=cool as far as parties/dancing ect go. College=parties. college is where you should be shining.

Next personally i dress a bit more high end. I like express & polo, but i also do causal too.
I have polos,sweaters,and a dress shirt If I feel like looking a little preppy.

our school really isn't a party school, but there are other colleges around. I need to freaking learn how to drive dammit, too busy though. Joining a club tomorrow.

Nexus Polaris said:
The key is this; no matter what you look like, what your life circumstances are, money situation, etc. just OWN it. Don't fake it like you're trying to convince yourself that you're good enough. Literally just stop giving a fvck. Make your life goal everyday when you wake up simply to entertain yourself and enjoy your day. Nothing more. It might sound counter-intuitive, but you'd be amazed at how much of an impact this will have on how women respond to you.

When you're actively trying to seek out women (particularly at the beginning before you get good at it), you'll be constantly putting out this subtle needy vibe that women can sense and will be very turned off by. But when you don't give a sh!t and you're just kind of bouncing around doing whatever you want, women will be drawn to you like moths to a flame because you will appear fun. And women LOVE fun guys.
I wanna stop giving a fvck but I feel lonely as hell. I can't even get close to my acquaintances, It's like they don't really care to be friends or something. I just end up doing work all day. It's a real pain.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok, Joined a soccer club today, and luckily the dudes and girls practice together. Knew a couple of the guys and a chick from around campus, talked to them and some other people. Saw this cute quiet chick but was too nervous to talk to her-I really should have said something but I had nothing to say.

so, anyway I'm gonna talk to this girl (it's so freaking hard to find approachable girls on campus) The problem is, I don't really feel like I have anything to offer this girl.Not being able to drive or not having real friends to hang out with really fvcks with my head.Whatever, better than waiting.
 

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Have not read this thread but cannot stress enough how looks is such a small part of HB success. Really, its just such a tiny part of the equation. I'm talking about a healthy male that is not obese or has 2 heads. As long as you are good with that the rest is up to you, attitude, clothes, confidence, etc... thats all that matters.
 
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