"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Looks seem to help an awful lot on dating websites (experiment in there)

Shivastorm_88

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It's still very pre-mature, but hear me out. Last week I sent this message to about thirty girls on plemntyoffish:

DO NOT READ!

So I said to myself this online thing is so
delicate... Within 2 lines of the conversation
you can surmise that someone is either
extremely cool and fun or make you want to
delete you account and run for the ocean.

So total we have 5 lines to decide if the
ocean is worth running for... I'll start...

Hi!

(stolen from someone on this website, I'm a thief) with regular pictures of myself. I got two replies, and nothing came out of it.



Today, I added this picture of myself, didn't change anything else. I then sent about thirty other messages, but in the process (in less than 10 minutes) got one that talked to me on IM and another who commented on me being hot.

Now I'm far from being extremely hot, although I do have (in my opinion) a decent body, nice abs and all so this does help... Although yes, still skinny hahah


http://img412.imageshack.us/i/img0352at.jpg/


oh and btw, I know I've posted a lot of pics of myself recently (mainly my other thread) I'm not narcissist or anything so don't comment about that. The first time was for genuine interest in improvement, this time it's just to verify something and keep an update (even though I just started the test)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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runner83

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Yes, I agree. Online dating looks is all there is to go off pretty much at the start, so naturally girls gravitate towards better looking guys.

The importance of looks online is more important than in "real life".

Did you see this previous experiment for this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178505

* Ducks head and waits for this thread to denigrate into a 200 post battle between "looks matter" and looks don't matter" proponents *
 

omkara

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There have been some psychological experiments done which show that when people are bombarded with options, they tend to make choices based on more superficial characteristics. This makes sense intuitively also, if you think about how we would start to narrow down our selections if we had an overwhelming amount of choice.

It doesn't necessarily mean that the partners they choose are the ones they would be happiest with though. People are often lousy at predicting or choosing what will bring them the most happiness.
 
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