logic24
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Looking for some insight...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Iceberg
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This girl tried to break up with you via text? You've been dating for over a year. Damn.logic24 said:Next day i text her and ask her whats the deal with her mom and she seems distant and doesnt say much. I text her later on in the day saying im gonna lay low from your house for a while, u can come to my house. ill pick u up and drop u off. I get a text from her saying she needs to find her old self, mind u she has been saying this for the pass 4 months.
That's the easy answer, but it's not the truth. The truth is, if a woman wants to be with you, she'll find a way to be with you.I call her up and she goes insane crazy saying i need to find myself and i can't continue this. 45 mins later changes the facebook thing and no contact from her since. I packed all her **** up and went no contact with her now. I sense she is getting great pressure for her mom and family, just looking for some insight thank you.
If that means lying to her family, sneaking behind peoples' backs, etc, she'll do it. Because nothing is more important to a woman than her emotions. Not honor, or duty or loyalty to the family. It's about whatever feels right to her at a certain time. They'll have no problem pissing off parents, ditching friends, or skipping out on a job if it means getting their sweet emotional fix from a boyfriend. And I don't mean this in a "i hate women" sort of way...it's just what I've seen from girlfriends, sisters, and female friends throughout my life.
Right now, I just think she wants out of the relationship. Not because of her mom and her sister. But maybe because it's time.
Anyway, what is this big issue her family has with you?
logic24
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Pimp-sicle
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logic24 said:Before me all she did was spend time with her family and sister. They resent me from taking that away from them. Its like they need her around to function. Ya I was rip **** over the text, at least call me lol.
Whatever the actual issue is, your spending WAAAAAAYYYY too much time with her. I think from what I gathered you guys hung out for several hours (spent the night a couple times) 5 days in a row.
Have your life outside of your gf; remember that is what attracted her to you in the first place.
Go no contact for a bit and see if she reaches out to you. If not, then I'd move on because its clear that something is going on underneath the surface that you don't know about yet.
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She wanted to drop you 4 months ago but didn't have a valid excuse.logic24 said:I get a text from her saying she needs to find her old self, mind u she has been saying this for the pass 4 months.
She found one.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.