Chilli Willi
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I been dating this women for 9 months, shes 12 yrs senior to me, we're engaged also. I've known her for nearly 6 years, we've always had a great friendship, she came to me an started asking me out, that was after many times over the years i was constantly teasing her in many many ways about me an her getting together somehow, i'd say anything to her right from sexual gestures to a simple i drove by. She'd always say oh u shoulda stopped in or was i home, i would try my best to not give her a direct answer, as to why i didn't, an she kinda bought it at the time, till i gave myself away just alittle later in the conversation, then she'd laugh. So heres something i'm faced with now she lives approx 100kms from me we've joked of me moving into her house nothing to serious just making it heard really. But I went job hunting the other day an got hired an its in her area so i talked to her on a serious note to see where i stood an if i could move in with her or not heres what she said!!!!
"Well we had a good talk today about things. I know I feel better. When you talk with me like that I can feel how much you love me. And I realize all over again that man I love this guy. God sent you to me for a reason.
Its hard to explain things like how that would feel to live together. I dont want to feel overpowered with everything I want it to be right. I need my space and I know that I do. I probably wont always but I know that I do. I think that if we do it slowly it will be perfect.
You can count on me to be there for you always. I am loyal and faithful and you can trust me."
Ok theres abit too much info there but i thought i'd share with ya so you can hear what i heard. Now to my face she told me shes not sure she can live with someone just yet cause shes been on her own for so long which is approx 15yrs, not single just living with her kids. An now for the rest of what she said, she claims, shes not sure that she knows how to live with someone. So also told me that she wants to live together but then commented shes scared that it won't work, so i think i understand what i have to do an thats back off the topic till she brings it up, or is there something i can say, (i'm stumped on this one) which will relay my message without causing a situation where she see's me as needy or desperate, or like i say should i just wait till its her conversation an simply agree that i too feel the same way an don't wanna move too fast either, basically toss it right back at her. let me know what ya's think...
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"Well we had a good talk today about things. I know I feel better. When you talk with me like that I can feel how much you love me. And I realize all over again that man I love this guy. God sent you to me for a reason.
Its hard to explain things like how that would feel to live together. I dont want to feel overpowered with everything I want it to be right. I need my space and I know that I do. I probably wont always but I know that I do. I think that if we do it slowly it will be perfect.
You can count on me to be there for you always. I am loyal and faithful and you can trust me."
Ok theres abit too much info there but i thought i'd share with ya so you can hear what i heard. Now to my face she told me shes not sure she can live with someone just yet cause shes been on her own for so long which is approx 15yrs, not single just living with her kids. An now for the rest of what she said, she claims, shes not sure that she knows how to live with someone. So also told me that she wants to live together but then commented shes scared that it won't work, so i think i understand what i have to do an thats back off the topic till she brings it up, or is there something i can say, (i'm stumped on this one) which will relay my message without causing a situation where she see's me as needy or desperate, or like i say should i just wait till its her conversation an simply agree that i too feel the same way an don't wanna move too fast either, basically toss it right back at her. let me know what ya's think...
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