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looking for insight on a tough girl.

Matlm

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I'm a follower of Pook's. I hope that at least one person who responds is at least familar with his material, or Maslow's.

There is this girl at my school who is graduating on friday. I have, and still think it would be fun to hook up with her, and learn from the process of dealing with women like her.

When I'm with her, I'm in control; I don't put up with her ****. But I have realized all this does is have us go back and fourth, and even though it asserts my position, it gets me nowhere.

I was thinking that I may be more successful if I just go in totally detached, and talk to her like I would a guy, and really listen to not what she says, but what she means.

I tried to hook up with her once before, but she pulled away. She said she didn't hook up with people unless she was on a date. When I told her I would take her out, she told me she wasn't really dating.

I'm not really fixated on that event mainly because I was full of deluding desire, and not in the moment. I felt like crap the whole time we were hanging out because I was so full of false desire.

Like I said before, I think it would be a unique learning experience to unwrap this girl, and would appreciate any insight.
 
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Originally posted by Matlm
There is this girl at my school who is graduating on friday. I tried to hook up with her once before, but she pulled away. She said she didn't hook up with people unless she was on a date. When I told her I would take her out, she told me she wasn't really dating.
Guy - bluntly stated, she is not interested in you! Read the above statement - she rejected you twice in one breath! You could try to be a mystery or a man or whatever but she don't want to get to know you - so you are still going to be a mystery to her as a fading memory. Let alone she is graduating in aq few days....you wpould think there would be a sense of urgency on her part to "hook up" if she really cared, no?

Be a man and keep your dignity and leave her alone!!!
 

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Yes, don't waste your time on an uninterested girl. She already knows your intentions and whatever you do won't change much.

Meet other girls.
 

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Yeah you guys are probably right.

I see my interactions with girls, these days, more or less as a game or hobby, similar to how I lift weights and study philosophy. Do I flip out if I only get 8 reps and I was shooting for 10? of course not, but there is always a voice in the back of my head saying "Is it possible for to get those 2 extra reps in, is there a way?"

You know? It's just kinda fun.
 

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Do I flip out if I only get 8 reps and I was shooting for 10? of course not, but there is always a voice in the back of my head saying "Is it possible for to get those 2 extra reps in, is there a way?"
You try those extra reps, find out you had no chance and get an injury that puts you out for 4 weeks :eek:

Anyway, I know the feeling Matlm. Sometimes you just have to remind yourself that not every girl is going to want to f*ck you. Your efforts are best used elsewhere. Who knows, maybe you pursing other girls and not thinking about her will pique her interest.

Have fun.
 
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