"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Looking for a WINGMAN/BUDDY who's starting out in Melbourne, around 18/19

HOT_CHILLI

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I've been a part of this forum for a few years, haven't made many posts. I've been reading over materials for a while (David Deangelo, Mystery, Swingcat, Neil Strauss) but never really taken any action (by that i mean sarging).

I'm looking for someone who is in a similar position around my age who wants to rid their fear of women, develop their social skills and learn the ways of Don Juan. and do it with someone by their side.

If you find yourself wanting to sarge or simply chat to women and find yourself hesitating, having a person there to push you on might just be your ticket to success, as well as mine.

For instance, one day we could go out and just aim to start conversations with women, with no purpose whatsoever.
The next day could focus on busting on women, making eye contact and using a deep, masculine voice.
The aim would be to slowly progress, teach each other, correct each other and motivate each other.

I prefer to aim for cold approaches, just like in the street or at the bus stop or where ever. If you can approach there you can easily approach anywhere else. clubs are not much use, sarging there will not earn you a skill set that can be applied later in life, nor is it much of a social setting.
A bar lounge on the other hand, would do nicely.

The aim of any this, from my point of view, is to:
- become the best man you can possibly be for women, and for yourself.
- develop the skill set to attract women that you find attractive
- date/interact with many women to aquire a sense of what you find attractive and what you do not, thus enabling you to be more specific about those whom you socialise with, therefore increasing the likelihood of finding a partner who is a good match.
- make mistakes to learn from, and not settle for what could be a mediocre life.
- Eliminate neediness, enhance confidence.

I do not want a wingman who is going to be like the mindless jackass at the gym, who throws weights up and down with terrible form and walks out thinking he's trained his muscle, when all he's done is train his ego.
This is not a competition to see how many women you can bed, or how many hook-ups you can get. It is about aquiring social skills that enable you to get what you want.

Of course you might have different views and if i didn't listen to them the whole thing would become counter-productive.

They say the best way to learn something is to teach it to another, so we could exchange knowledge, correct each other, and help each other evolve.

I'm 18 atm, taking my gap year, i live in Brunswick. If you're interested please let me know, this could be a turning point in our lives.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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