Long term GF may be too damaged

[chucktownman2016]

So, I will be with my gf 3 years in May. Early in the relationship she revealed that the guy she was dating in college 10 years ago, her 1st relationship, 1st lover was murdered. And, in order to alleviate the guy's parents having to do it, she ID'd his body. So, in November we take a trip to London together, and she gets pretty inebriated and I guess time change differences took into effect and she said "You never had to ID a body". Keep in mind, that we were discussing nothing even close to that overseas.

I've tried to be understanding, I mean, having to ID a dead body of a former lover is no easy task. But, it has been almost 3 years and this is still coming out. She wants to get married and I feel it's to much of a risk because she's damaged.

 

[El Payaso]

Besides this, what other red flags have you noticed about her? How is your sex life? How does she treat you? Does she flake a lot?

 

[chucktownman2016]

I mean, she has a bit of a temper. I lived at her place for a while, and everytime we had an argument she would threaten to kick me out (I have my own place now).

 

[Billtx49]

I mean, she has a bit of a temper. I lived at her place for a while, and everytime we had an argument she would threaten to kick me out (I have my own place now).

Big flag there. Arguments with over the top verbal threats or even her getting physical on you over small things are classic signs of damage, not of a quality woman in love.
Damaged women rage in different ways, some verbal, some physical, and some do both eventually if you stay around her that long.

 

[AlphaNate]

Should have left her in London.

 

[dude99]

So, I will be with my gf 3 years in May. Early in the relationship she revealed that the guy she was dating in college 10 years ago, her 1st relationship, 1st lover was murdered. And, in order to alleviate the guy's parents having to do it, she ID'd his body. So, in November we take a trip to London together, and she gets pretty inebriated and I guess time change differences took into effect and she said "You never had to ID a body". Keep in mind, that we were discussing nothing even close to that overseas.

I've tried to be understanding, I mean, having to ID a dead body of a former lover is no easy task. But, it has been almost 3 years and this is still coming out. She wants to get married and I feel it's to much of a risk because she's damaged.

Put your foot down now. Yes it was a shame you had to identify a body. But that was then and it had nothing to do with me this trip or this situation!

If you don't she will use this as her trump card to try to control every situation.

 

[Glassguy]

So, I will be with my gf 3 years in May. Early in the relationship she revealed that the guy she was dating in college 10 years ago, her 1st relationship, 1st lover was murdered. And, in order to alleviate the guy's parents having to do it, she ID'd his body. So, in November we take a trip to London together, and she gets pretty inebriated and I guess time change differences took into effect and she said "You never had to ID a body". Keep in mind, that we were discussing nothing even close to that overseas.

I've tried to be understanding, I mean, having to ID a dead body of a former lover is no easy task. But, it has been almost 3 years and this is still coming out. She wants to get married and I feel it's to much of a risk because she's damaged.

You've been a member since, well, today....and you have 3 posts. Troll, troll, troll.

Not sure how you trolls dream this stuff up but it's RUINING this forum.

Guys please don't feed the trolls.