Long Distance Relationship

[Joelll]

Hey guys,
Whats your opinion on having a long distance relationship?
Now although i trust the gf, sometimes it bothers me that i don't know wtf she could be doing right now.

 

[Hughman]

Typical advise on here is that if it's 'exclusive' get prepared for a lot of pain and hassle.
If it's a casual relationship, then it's fine. Simply date, and potentially bed, other women until the ldr comes back to town, or you to her.

 

[Joelll]

Thats what i wasn't hoping for lol
its far from casual though. We've been together for a bit longer then two years.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You have had a LDR for the past two years? Or did one of you just recently move away? How far? How often do you see each other?

A LDR is pointless unless you see her a lot and the LDR arrangement is very temporary.

 

[Ganondorf]

speaking from personal experience, LDR's aren't that bad. It's about as bad as any other relationship

No you can't see them 24/7, but oh well. That gives you plenty of time to do other things. Make friends, get things done, have a little bit more of your own life instead of giving all your free time to a Girlfriend. You won't be up each others butt all day and you have your space, which is a huge plus

Also, if you trust her, then you shouldn't be worrying about what she's doing. she's got a life too, and she's also got things to do. lol don't be so nosy. even if she was closer to you, then IF she wanted to cheat that bad, she'd do it regardless.

From being in one myself, the distance is not that much of a hassle depending on how close your are. we were only 2 hours, but I can't speak for others who brave the half the country route, that must be tough.
People think the distance adds a whole big layer, but in reality, it's only a small part. We still had the same laughs, sex, talks, and struggles of any normal couple. The distance only made things a tiny bit more difficult, but really nothing to cry over. We also broke up because of normal things, not because "YOU're Just to far away waaaaa"

so it's not nearly as bad as people make it seem

Of course like I said, we were lucky enough to only be 2 hours away so I dont know your situation.

If you say some crap like an hour, then I don't consider that long distance at all lol

 

[Joelll]

Thanks for the replies guys,
lol i wish i was in your situation .
We've been together 2 years, seeing each other frequently. ( on weekends and weekdays )
She went to study abroad, like in another country.( 9 hours flight time )
So yea it's pretty far away if you ask me.

 

[Dante420]

Typical advise on here is that if it's 'exclusive' get prepared for a lot of pain and hassle.
If it's a casual relationship, then it's fine. Simply date, and potentially bed, other women until the ldr comes back to town, or you to her.

Long distance is only ok if its driving distance

 

[Hughman]

Thanks for the replies guys,
lol i wish i was in your situation .
We've been together 2 years, seeing each other frequently. ( on weekends and weekdays )
She went to study abroad, like in another country.( 9 hours flight time )
So yea it's pretty far away if you ask me.

9 hour flight and she's what, going to be there 3 years? (presumably a uni student, yes?)

Kiss that relationship goodbye. Really, why should you suffer?

Do your usual thing, and if another woman walks into your life, then so be it. If you want to keep your current girl so you can have her when she comes back for holidays, or when you go to visit her, make sure the others you have aren't connected to her and remain casual.

 

[Energizer]

I had a long distance relationship and it was the distance that ruined the relationship in the end. It put a lot of pressure on something which shouldn't have pressure and in the end I ended it.

I have the utmost admiration for anyone who can make this type of relationship work.