"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LMR Sh1t test

ne0phyte

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got a question that's been buggin me -
when girls **** test you, you either ignore it or answer it in a ****y way (agree and amplify).

however, i've been in a situation where i'm making out with the girl, things are getting heavy, and i get the "are you a player?" line. now I'm big on reading body language. If she was saying it in a playful tone, or with a smirk, I would be like "hell yes, that's why I'm here haha".

but what if she says it in a very vulnerable way, like she's really afraid that I'm just going to drop her after she gives it up? it's clearly LMR, but I'm not sure how to handle this one. agreeing and amplifying like my first example seems like it would definitely turn her off. i've tried ignoring it, but that breaks the mood too.

tips?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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HolyG

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"Are you a player?"

I play sports all the time.

Are YOU a player?

you're the one who brought it up.

It she persists just say...I used to be a player but not anymore...that doesn't do it for me anymore.

change a girl's MOOD, not her MIND.
 

Hakuna

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"Are you a player?"

I play sports all the time.
wow this is genius.

If it's a confrontational **** test and she's smiling or something, then you could do the "Hell Yes" thing and mention your de facto harm. If you get the vulnerability vibe from her, then I would dodge it in funny ways without amplifying too much like Holy G suggested thus giving out an Aloof but not to ****y vibe.

Any time I've given in because I thought she was way to vulnerable, I always ended up regretting it. Maintain the frame, don't let it shift to her. And never give in to qualifying yourself, it will set you up for a painful death no matter how harmless it seems at the time.
 
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