LJBF'd Help me Out! Anyone..AC/DC...come on!

[English_Bloke]

I read a great article that just about 100% explains my situation
Friend Zone or Hell Basically I made a huge mistake getting in this friend zone and blowing it and all my levels of confidence and humor are so low down. What do I need to do tomorrow when I wake up (just happened today)? Yeah im being dramatic, so what, but the problem is that im now committed to her. Saturday im going with her for a concert (non refund) and even worse I paid to go on holiday with her because it wasnt meant to end like this! She gave me all the right signals just I waited too long. And now as you can see I feel screwed. I know its not that bad but im really at a loss for what to do. Im going to see her first thing tomorrow and its unavoidable.

My Jerk side is trying to come out and be an ass
My heart or w/e is about to suck up to her.
Whats in the middle? Keep in mind, im going on holiday with her.

Serious answers please, AC/DC if your out there maybe you can talk some sense into me!

 

[Alfie Crew]

Move on get over her. You may think it will suck, but there is alot to learn from the situation.

And don't be a jerk, it is not her fault you are friend. Just start enjoying her as a friend, and learn from her.

Also jtry searching the forum. There are tons of posts like this.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Be seen with other girls when shes somewhere around. When you go to the concert chat up some girls you see and have a fun little convo with them. Do the samething with your 'holiday' trip. Have fun on your holiday trip and dont worry about her. Show her a good time and something good should happen.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Be seen with other girls when shes somewhere around. When you go to the concert chat up some girls you see and have a fun little convo with them. Do the samething with your 'holiday' trip. Have fun on your holiday trip and dont worry about her. Show her a good time and something good should happen.

I want to add on to this.

Know what the difference is between female friend and girlfriend? Intimacy (physical and mental). You need to put the past behind you, start with the smiling, the kino, the flirting. Make her feel sexy and beautiful aronud you. Make her smile.

You're a nice guy, that's why this will be very easy. Make it happen.

 

[English_Bloke]

Ok so instead of turning into the jerk and then bouncing to nice guy and doing the whole pointless cycle, I can focus on kino and flirting - so what I want may never come and I will mentally move on, but if I play my cards right with kino etc..than something could happen in a more physical way?

So here is my plan from the advice I have got. Expand by talking to at least 4 new girls a day, and then getting a few to get flirty/kino with. Move on mentally but not ignore the old girl. When I feel I need to blow my testosterone over her, I work out instead. Then when things settle down a bit more, I can start up the right stuff to do with her like kino, flirting and everything AC/DC said. By the time I go to florida with her in April I will not only have a larger girl base but more experience and a correct relationship with her. Then everything will be set for anything more physical with her.

Sound good?

One thing...valentines day - should I wait a bit before I get back in with her because its next week.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by English_Bloke
Ok so instead of turning into the jerk and then bouncing to nice guy and doing the whole pointless cycle, I can focus on kino and flirting - so what I want may never come and I will mentally move on, but if I play my cards right with kino etc..than something could happen in a more physical way?

So here is my plan from the advice I have got. Expand by talking to at least 4 new girls a day, and then getting a few to get flirty/kino with. Move on mentally but not ignore the old girl. When I feel I need to blow my testosterone over her, I work out instead. Then when things settle down a bit more, I can start up the right stuff to do with her like kino, flirting and everything AC/DC said. By the time I go to florida with her in April I will not only have a larger girl base but more experience and a correct relationship with her. Then everything will be set for anything more physical with her.

Sound good?

One thing...valentines day - should I wait a bit before I get back in with her because its next week.

Leave Valentine's day alone. You're a player, and a player is too busy to get stuff for "some girl".

That's what I would normally say. If you think this girl likes you back, get her a little teddy bear or something. I"m serious.

 

[JSH]

Personally, I am much more organic when it comes down to it, less of a believer in game plans. However, AC/DC is right, you need to up the physical contact. I recommend tickling, most girls are susceptible to it and it can get her used to being a lot more physically intimate as well as the presence of your hands on her. However, do not overdo it.

Making girls associate feeling beautifiul, sexy and wanted around you is also good as this high means they want to be with you. This is why flirting is good.

Hope you have a great time in Florida with her, btw: is it just you two going away together.

 

[English_Bloke]

Are there different types of LJBFing? She didnt do it in a 'no you creep!' way, but like 'I dont want commitment because my BFs stink'. Now we all know what I want so im not worried about relationships....do I still have a chance on a physical level?

We got to the stage of her sleeping in my arms, and then she was on my bed - hah so freaking close! My parents are liberal but not THAT liberal so nothing happened more than kino. I dont think kino is too much of an issue but I need to get above the feeling and into the kissing zone.

Valentines day...yeah I got her a bear, its cute but I feel after being LJBF'd that its over the top and she may go 'eww stalker trying to buy me love' - maybe a single red rose?

Thanks for the support - AC/DC you really got it nailed thanks man!, florida is gonna be great even if it isnt a relationship - at least I get to have a hot girl in a bikini with me for a week