"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Life Lessons With Grandma

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Okay so once in awhile my grandma will call me and I take her out to dinner. Im going to use what I learned from going out with my grandma and observed about woman and apply it to how you should be a man.

-Lesson 1 Language. Would you curse in front of your grandma . **** NO. So when you take a woman out you don't curse your better than that you have a wider vocabulary than that its not needed and its unattractive. Think about how many woman you have been with and how many have swearerd did it make you feel less attractive to them? I would say yes.

- Lesson 2 Listen. My grandma is couped up in her house alone like everyday the same applies to single woman they are bored out of there minds they only want a boyfriend to have fun with and go out with. So let them flap there gums excessively while you listen, and woman love a good listener trust me.

- Lesson 3 Charm. When I go out with my grandma, I drive her I pick her up. I decide where were going and give her always two options. Plan A and a backup plan Plan B. I open the door for her to get her old ass in, not because I have to but because its the right thing to do. When we get inside a restaurant I open the door for her I do it every time and I stress this EVERY TIME. It makes you look like a stud and it makes them not only feel special but less rushed, so they relax more, and in turn they flap there gums more and the more a woman talks the less you have to just say enough to keep those gums moving.

- Lesson 4 Positive Mental Attitude. My grandma is old as **** and shes thinking about remodeling her home before she dies but she doesnt want to spend her money and she always talks about how it sucks to get old. Turn the negative into the positive. If your positive woman will naturally want to be around you more its that simple. If she says shes old than you say at least you can do whatever you want and go out if you desire. Do you get it make her more comfortable, by being funny but still maintaining the truth that although it may suck look at the upside. You only live once so why not remodel the home and be happy with the outcome before you die who cares about the money **** your grandchildren? Stay positive always turn the negative into positive master these four skills and you will truly be a great man.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ease

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I dont think you should be trying to seduce your grandmother. Thats not healthy.
 

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Appoloin said:
Okay so once in awhile my grandma will call me and I take her out to dinner. Im going to use what I learned from going out with my grandma and observed about woman and apply it to how you should be a man.

-Lesson 1 Language. Would you curse in front of your grandma . **** NO. So when you take a woman out you don't curse your better than that you have a wider vocabulary than that its not needed and its unattractive. Think about how many woman you have been with and how many have swearerd did it make you feel less attractive to them? I would say yes.

- Lesson 2 Listen. My grandma is couped up in her house alone like everyday the same applies to single woman they are bored out of there minds they only want a boyfriend to have fun with and go out with. So let them flap there gums excessively while you listen, and woman love a good listener trust me.

- Lesson 3 Charm. When I go out with my grandma, I drive her I pick her up. I decide where were going and give her always two options. Plan A and a backup plan Plan B. I open the door for her to get her old ass in, not because I have to but because its the right thing to do. When we get inside a restaurant I open the door for her I do it every time and I stress this EVERY TIME. It makes you look like a stud and it makes them not only feel special but less rushed, so they relax more, and in turn they flap there gums more and the more a woman talks the less you have to just say enough to keep those gums moving.

- Lesson 4 Positive Mental Attitude. My grandma is old as **** and shes thinking about remodeling her home before she dies but she doesnt want to spend her money and she always talks about how it sucks to get old. Turn the negative into the positive. If your positive woman will naturally want to be around you more its that simple. If she says shes old than you say at least you can do whatever you want and go out if you desire. Do you get it make her more comfortable, by being funny but still maintaining the truth that although it may suck look at the upside. You only live once so why not remodel the home and be happy with the outcome before you die who cares about the money **** your grandchildren? Stay positive always turn the negative into positive master these four skills and you will truly be a great man.
Not bad, but what if your granny curses worse than you????? My grandma does have a salty mouth, but mine is worse. She is a tough, old and imposing broad too.

But still being a gentleman is exactly what you should do with a date and granny. Other than mildly cursing in front of my grandma, it is proper behavior while I am out with her. I really need to watch my mouth in front of women, no doubt. I at least try and drop the 4 letter bomb.

All in all, well done.
 

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I dont seduce and its not about my grandma its how you should act lol but yea that made me chuckle your reply
 

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My grandma is full of life lessons. Think about how much life their generation has seen; these are people who lived through the Depression, WW2 and countless other wars, the Cold War, bull and bear markets, fads and styles, and they have seen it all come and go like a rock that sits by a stream.

Your elders are more valuable than you will know, until it's too late.

Of modern women, my grandma always sais "It's all about me." Women were happier back when they acted like women, feminism has screwed everything up. But now I'm preaching to the choir.

On being taken advantage of, she sais "What am I, the little red hen?"

And no woman ever respected a man more than her. My grandfather has been dead for 30 years but it's still his name on the mailbox, in the phonebook, and on every piece of mail that arrives at her house. Of course, he was a man worthy of such respect. Born the youngest of 13 kids in a house with dirt floors, he came into this world with NOTHING and left it as a millionaire, owning tons of farmland, a wildly successful realty business, a farm equipment dealership, a car dealership, a construction business, an auctioneer business, an insurance practice, and more interests than I can even remember. The signage from his old businesses still hang in our barns, honoring his glory. He was a pillar of the community and entire rooms would go quiet when he spoke. More times than I can recall, when meeting old men, they have practically bowed at me upon hearing my name. My grandfather commands more respect from the grave than most living men will ever achieve.

I have lost many a night, wondering how I may uphold this legacy.

Didn't mean to go off-point, but the gist is: Honor your elders. And seek them out, they hold treasures in their experiences and all you have to do is ask.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I decide where were going and give her always two options. Plan A and a backup plan Plan B.
I like the idea of a backup plan. I wonder if giving her the choice of the two options undermines your leadership position at all? I don't think it does, but I'd be curious to hear if someone else thinks so.

As for opening doors for her, I agree girls love this sh!t. But I wonder if this portrays you as being overly AFC? It puts some girls in the mindset of having an entitlement mentality - they'll be expecting to be treated like a "lady" everywhere you go. Pulling out their chairs, all that stuff.

Having said that, I'll open the door for my girlfriend. If I think of it. Fortunately she doesn't seem to care whether I do or don't.
 

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one particular thing that impresses upon me every time I speak to my grandmother is the lack of the word "I" when it comes to her growing up. Growing up during the great depression was one of those things that required a cohesive family unit to make things work. She always did stuff herself without complaining, and even still does to this day - to a fault even. The contrast today is that everyone feels entitled and thinks about the "me" more than the "us".

I always feel a bit spoiled thinking about how much better we have it today than other generations had it. Unfortunately, I think its going to take drastic changes for us to change our overall mindset again because people will stop caring for only themselves only when they will need someone to care for them. We aren't there yet.
 

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zekko said:
As for opening doors for her, I agree girls love this sh!t. But I wonder if this portrays you as being overly AFC? It puts some girls in the mindset of having an entitlement mentality - they'll be expecting to be treated like a "lady" everywhere you go. Pulling out their chairs, all that stuff.
There is nothing AFCish about holding doors for a woman and letting her pass through first. Girls love it, and it shows a certain amount of class. It's about the same as giving your jacket to a girl when she is really cold. It signals that you are thinking off her(and girls love it when you think of them) and that you are a real gentleman.

However, there is a difference by doing this sort of things because you WANT to and doing them because she expects them. The moment a girl expects me to open the door, I stop doing it. When they stop at the door and wait for me to open it, I just walk past them.

And in case you're curious where this comes from: Pay attention next time you're walking with a girl. There's a 99% chance, she's half a step behind you. This displays your dominance as an alpha male. Pay attention when you're walking with a male friend, chances are, you're constantly trying to overtake the lead position. Now, since you're ahead of the girl when approaching the door, it's rude to open it, walk in and let it slam in her face. It shows you're not thinking about her presence, even tho she is right behind you. By opening the door, letting her pass, you signal that you acknowledge her existence. This will hit in subconsciously. And while it doesn't get you laid, it does help your game in a tiny bit, makes it a tiny bit easier.
 

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I'm disappointed in this thread...

NO KINO???

Your grandmother probably LJBFed you... at which this point I'd have to recommend:

-Hit the gym
-Spin more plates
-Read Book of Pook
-Read DJ Bible
-Do the Bootcamp
-Wire me $100 for this excellent advice.






I couldn't resist, sorry.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pay attention next time you're walking with a girl. There's a 99% chance, she's half a step behind you. This displays your dominance as an alpha male.
Interesting. I always thought it was just because I walked faster.
But I guess you're right in that it shows leadership. I just never thought of it that way.
 

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zekko said:
Interesting. I always thought it was just because I walked faster.
But I guess you're right in that it shows leadership. I just never thought of it that way.
If you walked faster than she did, she'd fall behind eventually, wouldn't she? You did indeed walk faster than she did, to display your dominance, but she caught up with you, but understands her place.
 

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What the hell are you kids blabbering about. When did it ever become ok to walk ahead of your companion? You should be walking with her. And if you open doors for a woman all of the time and she stops to let you open the door for her, that means she is following your lead from previous examples. If you decide to "show her" and just walk past, that is pretty immature. But that would only apply to a woman who is waiting for you to open the door because she knows from past experience that is how you roll.
 
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