Library

[Vikman]

Is there a good strategy for approaching women at the library? If they're browsing for books? If they're studying? If they're reading? Seriously, what if they're studying?

 

[IPalindromeI]

First and foremost - look as if you belong there and are there for reasons other than that. Nothing creeps a woman out more than being obviously approached in a place where obvious approaches aren't generally called for.

A few:

Library, browsing - casually watch where she browses and pick out a few good conversation starter books from where she was and browse somewhere near her. Pick something off the shelf and turn to her and ask something like... 'hey, sorry to bother you (this appears polite and the setting calls for that) but have you read anything by this author? If she is a bookish girl, she will want to talk about what she is reading, what she wants to read, etc. Ask her what she likes and recommends and go from there.

Library, reading - discreetly observe what she is reading, find something similar or by the same author and approach her saying 'hey, don't mean to bother you (this appears that you are polite and the setting calls for that), but I noticed you are reading Jane Doe - is this one by Jane Doe any good? Basically the same as above.

Library, studying - bring a bookbag, books, etc. and plop down near her and get your stuff out like you are getting ready to do some hardcore studying. Or... just pick a book off the shelf and make like you want to write something down out of it. Curse lightly when you realize you 'forgot your notebook', and make a show of looking for it. When you don't find it, walk over to her table and say 'I can't believe this but I forgot to bring my notebook/pen - do you have any extra paper/a pen?' If she smiles genuinely and gives you paper/pen, ask her if she wants to go out for a study break before you get started. If she says yes - then you are in. When you go back in realize that you left the most important book you needed at home, or you realized that you need to get back for some reason but you would love to get her number to talk more.

Now... if she glares or looks indifferent when you ask about books, or if studying she gives you paper (or worse yet directs you to the desk for that) and turns down your study break, then you are done. Another day, another girl.

 

[Vikman]

Thank you sir, that's got to be one of the best answers I've ever recieved on this website.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Yeah, good idea. I have decided that the library is at once THE best place to find quality women and the hardest place to approach them. The good part is, you can always find hot women alone that normally would never be found alone, and you know most of the women in there are more intelligent than your average club/bar-hopper.

Anyway, in trying to think of good ways to not come across as a weirdo prowling the library for girls, one good idea I came up with that is certainly nothing original is to go come up with a phony survey and ask your "target" to help you out. Of course, if she has any interest at all in you, she will want to help you and will fill it out. If not, she will be dismissive, act busy, and that is one less girl you have to worry about. So I think it would be a good screening method and can be applied to an entire library of people if you wanted. Beyond breaking the ice, I have no idea how one would go in for the kill, and this is likely to just make things even more awkward, but it's an idea. Maybe take the completed survey from her hands, look at her in the eyes as if you were just struck by her unbelievable beauty, and tell her, "Hold on, I forgot one little item," and pencil in "Phone Number:_______" on the bottom of the page. I have passed surveys out in the library before (REAL ones) and most people were willing to participate, plus it looks like you're there for a legitimate reason, so it's feasible, although maybe a little impractical.

On second thought, maybe you're better off with a more direct approach, such as, "Hey, can you quiz me real quick before my test today?" as you hold at the study questions.
The fact is, from my observations, of the girls who frequent the college library, a good portion (probably half) of them are there because they're bored. The other half are actually studying. As if most men weren't timid enough, the thought of a some girl shattering the silence in a deathly quiet library room because of his pathetic approach is a powerful deterrant, and the reason, I suppose, why more men don't tap into this rich resource.