"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Lets talk about picking up with no hurry

Who Dares Win

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We often talk about cold approaches and club games in here and we all agree thats for sure part of an investment.

But talking about investments the same way you buy stocks, you buy as well bonds which dont grant you gains really fast but are much safer.

So long story short, lets find some tricks about picking up in places where you can afford to let time pass like universities, pubs you often attend and for the daring ones even the work place.

I'll start myself with contributions, I find that in those environment its much easier to build rapport due to the more time spent togheter plus the frequence of meeting times, in many cases there are also common goals.

An other great point is that b1tch shields are low and competition is not as aggressive as clubs or fast pick up venues.

I would suggest to focus on building rapport with the particular target while at the same time keep good relationships with everybody both guys and girls but especially those with the most credit in the group and with the closest friends of the girl you are aiming at.

And other advantage is that you cannot show that you are not in hurry therefore not triggering the "desperate alert button" which turn off most of girls.

While keeping a low profile it takes to be particularry vigilant for opportunities arise, a friends party where that particular girl drink more than usual will make it easier to kiss and make out with her, following that the relationship will be more oriented toward something potentially more than friendship.

After that she will be more receptive to your advances because of the emotive rush first and to confirm herself and others that she is not a slut who got used for that moment only.

Dont forget as well the group of girls that get more daring and dirtier when out toghter while at the same time feeling comfortable toward the cool guy they all know, I got multiple make out sessions in those occasion and trust me I dont look like brad pitt at all, it worked for me it could work for you as well as long as you match some easily obtainable qualities.

Whoever has anything to add is more than welcome.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Anywhere that has a general shortage of Y-chromosomes... Yoga classes aren't bad.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
So long story short, lets find some tricks about picking up in places where you can afford to let time pass like universities, pubs you often attend and for the daring ones even the work place.
Right, and add in social circle to this. If you are looking for relationships, this is a far superior method to cold approaching, if you have a large enough dating pool. Not only do you get built in comfort and rapport, you get to know a bit about the girl, what she's like, what her character is. So you have something to go on to make a choice.

With cold approaches, all you can tell is if you like the way she looks. She could be a psychopathic monster under there, or like all the things you hate, anything. If you're just looking for a one night stand, this is fine because all you really need is a warm body. But for finding relationships, cold approaching is a very inefficient way to go about things. At least it is for me, because I am very particular about what kind of personalities I like. There's a very narrow spectrum of girls I go for.

Of course, not every guy has the luxury of a large social circle, or attending a university, or working with a lot of attractive women. So they're stuck with pickup.
 

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^^True, social circle is the safest bet however is not a privilege granted to every man, you need to be in the right place to meet the right people and be the right moment in the right moment.

Cold approaches dont require any of that since you its you to create the moment, but as we agreed its not a safe bet to get any outside a ONS.

Today I'll try to experiment what I call "familiarity game", I'll be attending some place where there are girls I like like a cafeteria and by keeping a low profile I'll make sure to get familiar to them.

I estimate a time from 10 days to 3 weeks would be necessary to this purpose, actually a longer one would be better but I cant afford to waste too much time.

My plan is to let them see me very often and while keeping a low profile have small talks and evaluating their reactions (body language and open questions) before trying to obtain something solid out of it.

I'll upload this thread if necessary during the way, otherwise I'll provide the final result on 3 weeks.

Whoever has anything to add or better yet suggest, is welcome.
 
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