let her know its ok to contact me?

[ScrewIt]

So there's this girl ive been seeing for a few weeks and everything is going great. However, she is somewhat shy around me, but generally she's quite independent...But initially she'd text when she felt like it.

Now so far a week ago, it's been me calling the shots. Setting up dates and calling/texting her, and she immediately jumps to my advances. And quite predictable i conttact her 1x every day 2 days...however i dont mind if she decided to be the one to contact me every once in awhile.

Meh..even after the date yesterday she said she'd call me, nothing. Obviously i have to make the move again as usual.

Should i just straightforward tell her , "it's ok if you want to contact me." ?

Or should i just keep this up until she feels its OK to contact me

 

[Chemistry]

No, don't tell her that... lol...

What you should do is test her out a little... you've shown your willingness to control things and run things, but now you wanna test out her IL so you just get occupied and see how long it is until she contacts you by whatever means...

Seriously, it's like the single best way to prompt and gauge IL at the same time... if she doesn't get back to you after you've made all the initial effort then she doesn't really give a f*ck that she's not talking to you or seeing you... what should happen however is that you've exerted enough worth in your previous encounters and she's left wondering why you've not contacted her to arrange something and curious what you're up to instead...

And Voila... you'll see her get off her ass and it'll be your phone ringing for once...

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by Ashley Chuckles
No, don't tell her that... lol...

What you should do is test her out a little... you've shown your willingness to control things and run things, but now you wanna test out her IL so you just get occupied and see how long it is until she contacts you by whatever means...

It wouldnt be a bad idea. however so far as i know she does have pretty high IL. She is a little shy around me and responds really well when i make moves. however i dont think she deserves this kind of treatment.

In the previous week i was somewhat playing games but i stopped doing that by the end of the week. And i dont want to start it again...

Well i guess no matter what, you cant avoid games completely even in a relationship.
Even the other night she said she'd call me but hah...bet it's another shyt test to see how much i care to call

 

[Chemistry]

Its not any kind of bad treatment... regardless of whatever other signs you see present communicating high IL, the ultimate and most accurate display of a high IL is that the girl will call you... you will not be left calling her all the time

Of course they'll be exceptions, and girls who really need you to take control because they can't do sh*t for themselves... you may have one of those, but do you really want to make anything happen with one of those?