Less Loyal: Women or Employers?

[BaronOfHair]

My track record of woman after woman losing interest in me extremely quickly has nothing to do with how I approach my diagnosis....

You've chosen to not identify those aspects of your behavior and personality which drive away most sane people, then adopt more functional ones. So, yeah: Your approach is a problem

 

[GoodMan32]

You've chosen to not identify those aspects of your behavior and personality which drive away most sane people, then adopt more functional ones. So, yeah: Your approach is a problem

I've had counselors/forum posters give their hypothesis of where I went wrong.

That's all they can do: Hypothesize.

The only option to get a foolproof answer is to ask the woman where I went wrong. Yet the one time I tried that, she not only refused to tell me, but also threatened to rat me out to the cops if I sent her one more message.

 

[optinimus]

In my case, employers have been 95% loyal. I can't complain. On the other hand, my retention game with women has been lacking. It is one of my weak points. I think what typically happens is that the girl starts expecting something serious which I cannot give her. Probably, I need to give off more player vibes from the get go so she does not put me in the provider category.

 

[MatureDJ]

How I approach said diagnosis?

My track record of woman after woman losing interest in me extremely quickly has nothing to do with how I approach my diagnosis (and everything to do with whether the woman gets tingles from me)

Nor does the fact I wasn't cut out for the promotion I accepted with a past employer have anything to do with how I approach my diagnosis. I wish I was cut out for promotions (and was devastated to find out I'm not)

If I used my diagnosis as an excuse to never even try to date or get free sex, and neven even attempt a promotion, because I simply assumed my autism would prevent me from doing those things, you'd be right when you say my approach to my diagnosis is the problem.

It's been said many times on the forum, by the way, that my lack of muscle is the reason for my bad luck with the opposite sex. That's a faulty explanation. One of my core problems is keeping a woman. The fact said woman wanted to be with me to begin with proves my lack of muscle isn't the problem (because if my body type was the problem, the woman never would have given me a chance to begin with)

How tall are you?

 

[GoodMan32]

How tall are you?

5'9"

 

[MatureDJ]

5'9"

OK, you are height-impaired.

 

[GoodMan32]

OK, you are height-impaired.

Even though I'm not tall, my height is the least of my factors holding me back.