Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Legend's rules for repeat awsome nights

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This is my working rules for how to have a good night every night. Although they are not required for everyone, every night I follow these guidelines I’ve set out everything seems to go really well. When I have a bad night I can usually trace it back to not following one of these. This will help lead toward finally not giving a **** fully. I talk a lot about these on 7.19.08 in the Field debrief audio section of the blog. This is a working set that I and Edge have been thinking about.

Rules

1. Set your criterion for success to going out. Plain and simple nothing more nothing less. Go out.

2. Vocal warm ups. Warm up your voice. Sing in your car and warm your voice up, really open it up full full force. Personally I have to top out my voice, singing a song and getting extremely amped up. This warms it up for me to be able to project really well in venues where the music is insanely loud.

3. Pump your own state with craziness. Act like a hot 10. Being in the moment and pump your state using only your emotional brain not your logical one. Talk silliness to your wing just let your brain flow.

4. Open right away on the street but most important get in the venue and keep opening. Talk only to new groups of people immediately in the venue. This will get you on a roll.

5. Infringe on other peoples space with your vocie. This will bump your state and your attraction in set and from near by sets.

6. Stay in the venue when you get on a roll. Use the momentum to not give a ****. Ride the wave up.

7. Be on your own. Open groups and let your wing come in after you have hooked and locked in then he can get on your wave.

Negative Frame: Do not be wing man dependant. We can not save each other. Support does not work. Your wing will suck up your state and his crappy time can suck your state. The one that is in a flow has to open and lock in to a set and hook it then the wing can come in and get in conversation.

8. Stay in the moment and push forward keep the momentum. Keep a clear mind.

Negative Frame: Never talk game, think game or analyze game in the field.

9. Stay out until the end of the night. This builds up your tolerance to the nightlife.

10. Keep to the rules.

11. Re frame your bad night into a good night. Just think of one thing that you did that you haven’t done before. One place you pushed your edge in a new way. Then bam your crappy night will become a good night of learning.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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