leaves and comes back

[Ryno121]

I have been dating a girl for over 2.5 years. We get into disagreements on a weekly basis that seem not to get resolved. She has a pattern on leaving me during the argument, then blocking me in her phone so that I can't text or call her. She tells me that she wants to leave the relationship on a regular basis but then continues to email or even call/text when she feels like it. She reels me back in and I start to talk to her again. Quite a few times, during her " calling it quits " stage I have found another girl to hang out with. She finds out about the girl and then I am a cheater because I am still in communicate with her.
I do care and love her but the back and forth just won't seem to stop. Her temper during arguements leads to verbal abuse such as she telling me she hates me, wishes that my plane would crash while on a business trip, threaten she is going to **** other guys and calling me names such as pig, coward, piece of ****.

I am not sure why I seek her out so much but I know she does care and love me. I have asked her to just please stop the verbal abuse and leaving me and no other women would ever exist.

Please let me know if you think I am cheating on her if she leaves me and tells me were done or if I am in the right. Any thoughts or suggestions are appreciated.

 

[zorg198]

Next ,

Not a healthy relationship. just dump her and move on...

She has the lack of respect for you . if you don't see then you are blind.

Joe.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Let's steer this plane towards the land of reality, shall we?

I have been dating a girl for over 2.5 years. We get into disagreements on a weekly basis that seem not to get resolved.

Reality: couples who love each other DO have disagreements, but (a) not this frequently, and (b) not without the intent of trying to resolve it. Already this is looking like a bad choice of person to be with. (Also: WHY SO MANY FIGHTS? Relationships are two-way things, so while I can probably put the blame for some of these fights on her, I imagine there are things you are also doing and/or being stubborn about that's not helping either.)

She has a pattern on leaving me during the argument, then blocking me in her phone so that I can't text or call her.

Reality: no matter how mad you get a girl, one that genuinely wants to be with you will want to resolve an argument as soon as possible so she can get back to the good time feelings she normally has with you.

She tells me that she wants to leave the relationship on a regular basis but then continues to email or even call/text when she feels like it. She reels me back in and I start to talk to her again.

Reality: in her head she doesn't feel like she has other options, thus the reason she comes back to you. You're like a security blanket for her, albeit one she regularly fights with. However, a girl that really wanted to be with you wouldn't risk losing you by saying stuff like "I want to leave the relationship."

Quite a few times, during her " calling it quits " stage I have found another girl to hang out with. She finds out about the girl and then I am a cheater because I am still in communicate with her.

Reality: if you hook up with a girl while you two aren't together, it's not cheating. If you are communicating with said girl after you two get back together... to her it's EMOTIONALLY cheating. And, overall, it's just disrespectful to her - you wouldn't want her continuing to talk to a guy that banged her during a break, would you? But more to the point: this is one of the reasons why they say it's better to break up with someone and KEEP IT THAT WAY. If you think your ex should be cool with you being in communication with a girl you hung out with while on break, you're being delusional.

Her temper during arguments leads to verbal abuse such as she telling me she hates me, wishes that my plane would crash while on a business trip, threaten she is going to **** other guys and calling me names such as pig, coward, piece of ****.

Reality: I'm still reading this and wondering how you think it is this girl REALLY loves you. DO THESE SOUND LIKE THE WORDS OF A LOVING WOMAN? A woman that loves you wouldn't tell you she'd prefer to see you dead. DEAD! Like, not living anymore, no longer in existence... get my point?

I have asked her to just please stop the verbal abuse and leaving me and no other women would ever exist.

Reality: Soooo, basically you're telling her "I love you so much and I know you love me... if only you would stop doing things that indicated you don't love me, we'd be fine!" :crackup:

Reality check: this is the way she is, and you're not going to be able to change her. The time you'd spend trying to do that, you could just as easily find a woman out there who WON'T do these things. But again: a woman that ACTUALLY loves you won't do these things - except for maybe women who grew up in a home where this was the norm. In which case: RUN. Your life is only going to get harder dealing with a woman like this...

 

[El Payaso]

Wow. You are so far gone.

Do a Google search for "DJ Bible". Read it. When you are done, read another book called "The Predatory Female". Here's a link: http://www.revolucionantifeminista..../06/lawrence-shannon-the-predatory-female.pdf

You're just another poor victim still stuck in the matrix.

 

[Ray S]

Sounds like a nightmare. Best thing you can to is cut her out your life completely or you will have to live like this for eternity.

 

[Alvafe]

where is your balls dude?

next her

you having fights its ok, but if you ahd then do not solve anything plus she leaves and block all contact? I belive she is the kind who would toss your cloths out of the window when she don't want you around.

so again next her, be a man and move on and find a better girl

 

[MOTU]

Like the others said, get the fvck out of there bro. A couple of dangers:
- it will only get worse, not better. Soon she'll be hitting you or trying to get you to hit her.
- you will get used to it and it won't seem so bad. Then you'll stick around in a fundamentally fvcked up relationship and mistake the times when you aren't miserable for happiness.
- if you stick around too long and then break up, that kind of sh!tty behavior will seem "normal" to you and you'll allow it, or even seek it out, in your next relationship.

Resolve right now:
- no one will ever be allowed to stay in your life if they do or say things to try and hurt you with any regularity.
- you will tolerate disrespect from no one.
- you will only invest in healthy, mutually beneficial relationships.

Good luck.

 

[Ryno121]

once again - she is coming back saying that she wants to be with me. All last night i was getting texts and emails about her wanting a fresh start. Keep in mind last week she told me she was going to go sleep with another guy, not to touch her ( because I tried to hug her ) and she said she hope I died.
But all that changed - she wants me back this week...like wth! She makes me feel guilty because she is "reaching out to me and humbling herself " to come back to the relationship. I don't get it - why does she play these emotion roller coaster games...how do you tell someone to f off and wish them dead,to saying right in front of you that she is going to sleep with another man - to wanting me back ?
I feel like I am the crazy one!!!

 

[Tictac]

Too many 'fresh starts' is just stale behavior.

Dump this chick.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

Having read everyone else's responses and your take on the situation;

- She is not emotionally healthy, or stable.
- She does not treat you with any decency and respect.

If she makes you feel like you are the crazy one in the relationship, run. It will only get worse for you.

She has caste a spell on you with some severe push / pull behavior and you cant see straight.

RUN.......and don't look back.