"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Last Vestige of Blue Pill Thinking

Stugots26

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So I've shed a lot of Blue Pill thinking in the last year and become very aloof, very seductive, and I'm profiting like hell from it.

One of the last hills to climb for me hits this week.

Two of my plates - neither of whom I've seen in a while and both of whom are exhibiting bad behavior - have birthdays this week, the week after my own. They both wished me happy birthday.

One of them had gotten in touch the week before my birthday. She moved out of town but said she'd be back to visit in March. I told her to let me know when she figures out her itinerary. She didn't. She got in touch for my birthday via text and I responded thanking her and asking her if she figured out her itinerary. Silence. She could have said, "Don't know yet, I'll let you know." If she wanted to.

Her birthday is tomorrow. In good conscience and knowing what I now know, with her ignoring my direct question, I can't reward her bad behavior with my attention. In the past I have. Not anymore.

The other I last slept with about six weeks ago, when she lied about being single to hook up with me. Last text to her went ignored. She posted on Facebook for my birthday. Again, in good conscience, I can't reward bad behavior with my attention.

It feels unnatural but liberating to suddenly not be one of the dozens of "thirsty" orbiters giving them free attention on their birthdays. Something tells me they'll survive.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheException

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Stugots26 said:
So I've shed a lot of Blue Pill thinking in the last year and become very aloof, very seductive, and I'm profiting like hell from it.

One of the last hills to climb for me hits this week.

Two of my plates - neither of whom I've seen in a while and both of whom are exhibiting bad behavior - have birthdays this week, the week after my own. They both wished me happy birthday.

One of them had gotten in touch the week before my birthday. She moved out of town but said she'd be back to visit in March. I told her to let me know when she figures out her itinerary. She didn't. She got in touch for my birthday via text and I responded thanking her and asking her if she figured out her itinerary. Silence. She could have said, "Don't know yet, I'll let you know." If she wanted to.

Her birthday is tomorrow. In good conscience and knowing what I now know, with her ignoring my direct question, I can't reward her bad behavior with my attention. In the past I have. Not anymore.

The other I last slept with about six weeks ago, when she lied about being single to hook up with me. Last text to her went ignored. She posted on Facebook for my birthday. Again, in good conscience, I can't reward bad behavior with my attention.

It feels unnatural but liberating to suddenly not be one of the dozens of "thirsty" orbiters giving them free attention on their birthdays. Something tells me they'll survive.
Great post man.

Exactly right on all points. Sosuave needs more posts like this.
 
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