"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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kohh&monyhorse

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I actually found this fourm through simplepickup.

Before I go in, a little background information
I am a 17 year old senior at a competitive international school. In school, I'm not in any activities but am basically known as the best dressed kid, chill, cool, loner kid with good music taste. My mother was a model and my father married a model, so I'm assuming my parent are attractive and made an attractive baby. The interesting thing also is that my dad, uncles, and grandfather were all major playboys in university (I don't know about high school). So there are standards I should be living up too, considering the amount of people who say how much the males in my family resemble each other. My interest involve around fashion, business (sold an online fashion retailing site for 10,000 USD last year), and stock trading. So in a way people say i'm mature for my age. When it comes to friends, I'm pretty ambiguous. I'm close with the popular kids (they somewhat look up to me for my fashion taste) but never really broke into their circle because I have no intentions of underage clubbing/drinking (have always been invited)

Girl History (zero to none)
Put it likes this, from middle school to the 10th grade, I was an embarassment, no fashion taste, glasses, bad hair, trying way too hard to act cool.
11th grade was a changing moment for me. My fashion game was on point an d I knew the dopest songs. My friend told me that the popular senior girls said that I had swag and a couple were interested in me. But the thing is being a late bloomer, my confidence level has always been low, so I never really took action. Some of the senior girls would flirt with me, but I really didn't know how to respond.
12th grade. Was never really the type, but this I'm getting quite desperate to find a girlfriend and I've been eyeing a sophomore girl. My confidence level has risen a little bit. I've been flirting with a couple of girls in class to practice. But still, I'm pretty bad.

current-current situation. I've been eyeing a sophomore girl(only period we have is lunch I'm assuming). I think I have a good wingman who's a junior friend I know (popular kid). I talked to him about it and without my permission, he told the sophomore girl's best friend that I was interested. My junior friend tells me that sophomore girl is hella awkward, is in the popular circle but only has one friend.

Goals: (will be updated)
1. get the girl (I can't think of anything else)

At this point, all I need is advice on how to approach.

Only way I could think of would be along the line of
"hey are those jimmy choo's fall release shoes" (only an excuse)
hopefully, I get a response along the lines of "how dd you know what or who jimmy choo is"
make up some lie that "I interned there"
proceed from there
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Don't lie, that's silly.

Man up and have a little pride. Why, as a desirable senior, do you want this sophomore? Is she the best in her class? Would you be proud to call her your girlfriend?

Master the art of opening your mouth and talking, no matter what you say. Also master the art of giving girls limited validation. Don't drool over them and don't ignore them either. It'll come with time. It sounds like you have good self esteem, part of that should be trusting yourself to know what to say when the moment comes. If she really likes you, she'll laugh no matter what it is.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
Don't lie, that's silly.

Man up and have a little pride. Why, as a desirable senior, do you want this sophomore? Is she the best in her class? Would you be proud to call her your girlfriend?

Master the art of opening your mouth and talking, no matter what you say. Also master the art of giving girls limited validation. Don't drool over them and don't ignore them either. It'll come with time. It sounds like you have good self esteem, part of that should be trusting yourself to know what to say when the moment comes. If she really likes you, she'll laugh no matter what it is.
kk thanks
I'm just really lost on how I should approach her and when?
cause the only times I've seen her were when I walked past her in the hallway or sometimes in the school snack bar?

also
how should I approach if she knows I'm interested after my wingman told her best friend.
 

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Just pretend you don't know what your wing told her. But she's already thinking of you, so don't play around either. Turn your charm on, smile and do what men do naturally.

You seem very inexperienced, so this will not go as smoothly as it could. Since you're so much older she probably won't mind though, and as long as you pretend you know what you're doing, she WILL follow your lead.
 

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Day 1:
Pretty much a day without much action. Been stressed out with school. At this point school>girls. Now if I do get into my early-d school, girls>school. Lunch time was taken by a college counseling class and I find no girls attractive in my A-day classes

Pretty much spent most of my time browsing through the Don Juan discussion forum. I am new to this forum and have much more to learn.
But I do feel a lot more confident now after having viewed a couple of essential threads.
I feel as if I have the right tools but just haven't actually put my tools to good use.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Day 2:
Same thing as yesterday.
At the current moment school/career>girls
I am getting a notification today for whether I am accepted to my dream university, so at this point that's all I can think about.

And I've just recently had a question pop up.
Is it ideal to chat up a girl in the hallways in between classes or right before classes (5 minutes). I feel it would give you a better advantage in asking for her number as your time is limited
 

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Day 3:
I was accepted into my dream school, so all the stress I've been complaining about is all gone.

I guess I'll just read the DJ bible
 
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