"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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kissed girl with big cold sore. How screwed am I??

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Ok so I was not worried at first since I've heard 90% of people have oral herpes. So I was thinking I already have it since im pretty sure as a kid I had cold sores before.

Figured oh well I already got this so it wont hurt me. But she kissed me all over my face and nownow im kinda freaking out thinking this crap could get all over my face. Is that really possible? Its been 4 days since my first exposure with her. I also had protected sex with her since I only saw a cold sore on her lip and not down there.

So do you guys think im screwed or will already hopefully having hsv 1 protect me and I wont get any cold sores? Also how is a nice way to tell this girl we cant kiss anymore but only have sex? I am staying with her for a week and have nowhere to go. I dont think she realizes they are contagious. I hope I didn't make a big mistake.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hold on, lemme go pull out my MD degree and crystal ball and I'll get back to you
 

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Piers Nivens said:
Hold on, lemme go pull out my MD degree and crystal ball and I'll get back to you
Sometimes not responding to a thread at all is much more helpful than giving a useless or cynical response.

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OP, I don't think you should worry about this. Although the cold sore itself should have bee a red flag, I understand stuff happens. HSV-1 (general--notice I did NOT say genital) is dormant (asleep) in most people. Once you have the virus is in you, it doesn't matter if you were exposed once or 17 times. That is, the severity of the condition is not contingent upon the degree of exposure. Ironically, you may get cold sores if you worry too much because stressors--physical and psychological--tend to take HSV-1 out of sleep and into active mode.

In summary, don't worry about what already happened. You will be fine.
 

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Thanks for the response roby. So basically you are saying if I already have hsv1 then coming into contact with a cold sore wont activate it again? How do you know this though just curious.
 

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gottagetthatgirl said:
Thanks for the response roby. So basically you are saying if I already have hsv1 then coming into contact with a cold sore wont activate it again? How do you know this though just curious.
www.google.com
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I feel really foolish for kissing her actually. Is sex ok as long as she doesn't go down on me?
 

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so, you're so desperate you kissed a girl with a giant cold sore(basically an open wound) and now you're considering sex with her?

jesus christ OP.

better hope she ain't got genital too!
 

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devilkingx2 said:
so, you're so desperate you kissed a girl with a giant cold sore(basically an open wound) and now you're considering sex with her?

jesus christ OP.

better hope she ain't got genital too!
Sadly I already had protected sex with her several times. She's a girl I've been seeing and this cold sore thing just happened. I dont see anything down there...maybe I shouldn't sleep with her again though. A cold sore on her lip doesn't mean at all that she has genital herpes though. Two different things.
 

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gottagetthatgirl said:
Sadly I already had protected sex with her several times. She's a girl I've been seeing and this cold sore thing just happened. I dont see anything down there...maybe I shouldn't sleep with her again though. A cold sore on her lip doesn't mean at all that she has genital herpes though. Two different things.
I thought you like, just met a new girl with a cold sore, kissed her anyway, and were planning on banging her

I guess you can just keep on trekking, when you need to kiss her do the plastic wrap thing from that obscure abc show pushing up daisies
 

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Never base your judgment about herpes on visual inspection. It is often not possible to see even an active outbreak down there.

Your best bet is an inspection with an ultraviolet light and goggles.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stop kissing her. Just enjoy the sex. If she isn't attractive stop it all.
 

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You will most likely get it and it is for life and it can be very painful, unless it was a scab in its later stage, which means you should be alright. I had it since 8 years old.

Good news is if you get Type 1 which is on your face, you are very unlikely to get Type 2 which is genital (and which is far more painful) as you get some cross immunity from your antibodies.

There are a few things you can do to stop it occuring, one take Lysine supplements (especially when you are stressed).

Two catch it early, have zovirax with you always, when you get the itch, immediately put the cream on you need a very fine layer, less is more, if you put too much cream on it actually accelerates the cold sore and makes it worse! You need to catch it as soon as you recognise the itch, this can make a 2 week affair an unnoticeable 2 day affair..

There is also new hand held infrared treatment that is very effective and not expensive, so you can catch it early.
 
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