Killing the feelings

[LuckyStrike88]

I have always been quite a sensitive guy, especially with girls. I would get into a relationship and at the certain point feelings would just sink in, there's nothing i could do about it it was just me. We all know the consequences...

It doesn't matter what you learn, if that's the way you are at some point it's going to kick you in the balls. And it has kicked me in the balls many times over.

That last kick only recently basically caused me to go KO sorta speak. That feeling that you don't know what to do anymore and never believe you will.

To my surprise something snapped, i know i should be be devastated by her kick. And i have been for a little while, but i am not anymore. It just feel numb, i don't give a ****. Women, should feel like this not men.

I have been going at this stuff for 4 years now, i have put in a ridiculous amount of hour into it. Had more girls then i would have without it but never for long because of this.

Knowing what i know this is a good thing, i don't expect to be limited by feelings anymore and can just roam free. Hit on the hot chicks without losing it.

I just now realize that getting stomped on your heart can have it's benefits, because at some point it gets numb just like training a muscle. And i know it increases success dramatically, you will have no fear to do what is necessary.

I have seen it firsthand many times over, women will go to extreme lengths to push you into the role of an AFC that is completely in love with her and do whatever she wants. Not that they would even want you like that, but that's their challenge and what keeps it interesting for them.

Once you submit, they drop you like a stone. Hot girls with a lot of options mostly do that instantly. Good girls will stay loyal but will be less attracted even if they don't admit it, it's just the way it works.

Girls that you get to a certain point with and perceive themselves as high value and can't get you to submit, it's game over. They will be in your pocket most likely, they should be the one to want to tie you down to a relationship then. Not you.

Because you don't care either way and are chasing the other fish in the sea, if she wants to tie you down let her prove her worth, that's the way it's got to be. I've gotten my stepping stone i can feel that i don't have to fake anything it has become a part of me. And it's going to be a lot of fun

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Fair play dude. It's a sour taste, but it gets less so with time.

Not sure it's necessarily about killing feelings completely, rather fine tuning and redirecting them towards the self (primarily) and recognising who and what you place your value in. We have to understand our own psychology. Being quite stable myself, I have had a knack of attracting seriously damaged goods in to my life and to be fair, it's fcking tiresome now. I don't have time for the petty squabbles and the first world problems of fckwits any more.

It's a process of re-conditioning, and like you say no one ever learnt anything by having a free ride.

End of the day, when faced with a situation we only ever have two options:

a) If something can be done to rectify the situation, then do it.
b) If nothing can be done, acceptance is the only option.

Nowadays, I don't get too involved with people. I love my friends and family and I love the women in my life. I am more savvy at recognising challenging characters traits early on. But if someone decides to walk away, well that's their choice and not for me to comment. My self worth remains. It stings, sure, but these days, it's more like a mosquito bite than being tagged by a viper.

 

[ucde]

I have always been quite a sensitive guy, especially with girls. I would get into a relationship and at the certain point feelings would just sink in, there's nothing i could do about it it was just me. We all know the consequences...

Same here.

That last kick only recently basically caused me to go KO sorta speak. That feeling that you don't know what to do anymore and never believe you will.

Its OK to be overwhelmed by feelings, although it can be scary. I would suggest viewing it as a strength rather than a weakness, because it means you are really in touch with your heart. This will be a tremendous advantage to having real loving relationships, later on down the road. It just makes the initial stages harder.

Knowing what i know this is a good thing, i don't expect to be limited by feelings anymore and can just roam free. Hit on the hot chicks without losing it.

Yeah, thats a dream and a sales pitch. I often sell myself on that one as well. But maybe there is no way around having difficult feelings sometimes... or maybe there is for you, I dont know.

I just now realize that getting stomped on your heart can have it's benefits, because at some point it gets numb just like training a muscle. And i know it increases success dramatically, you will have no fear to do what is necessary.

Ugh, bro, don't talk that way. Having your heart crushed isn't cool, and it requires nurturing and some time to get you back into shape. Becoming 'numb' is definitely a false success, a pyrrhic victory.

I have seen it firsthand many times over, women will go to extreme lengths to push you into the role of an AFC that is completely in love with her and do whatever she wants. Not that they would even want you like that, but that's their challenge and what keeps it interesting for them.

You mean that you and your acquaintances/friends manifested that. Very few real relationships actually look this way in real life.

Once you submit, they drop you like a stone. Hot girls with a lot of options mostly do that instantly. Good girls will stay loyal but will be less attracted even if they don't admit it, it's just the way it works.

You probably didn't find the right girls for you. A little bit of neediness is OK and the other person will accept it and nurture you through it. You just have to find the right one to do that.

Girls that you get to a certain point with and perceive themselves as high value and can't get you to submit, it's game over. They will be in your pocket most likely, they should be the one to want to tie you down to a relationship then. Not you.

Rule #1 about women/people/relationships: never generalize. Build a special connection where you don't think of the person as "girls" or "hot women" or whatever. Find that connection or be lost.

Because you don't care either way and are chasing the other fish in the sea, if she wants to tie you down let her prove her worth, that's the way it's got to be. I've gotten my stepping stone i can feel that i don't have to fake anything it has become a part of me. And it's going to be a lot of fun

yeah, I don't really buy it. Is "Killing the feelings" really the title of this thread? Well, feelings are the whole reason why people enter relationships in the first place. So I would say you are actually quite confused, but if that's your truth, then ride on, brotha.