"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Keeping it light and fun.

Peacebewithyou

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Alright, so I am a junior in college. A girl, call her Lia, I have known since freshman year went out with me last night. Mind you months earlier we had started getting close and she told me that she had feelings for me, only to later tell me she had mixed it up with her feelings of me as a friend. Thus, I limited contact with her as much as I could, but remained receptive whenever she tried to talk to me or whatever.

Anyways, last night we walked downtown to the club and bar areas part of the city. Was about a mile of walking. We flirted, touched, laughed and all that good stuff. We were to meet up with some friends. Met up with one of her good friends and roomates, call her Tiffany at one of the bars. They immediately delved into sexual topics at the bar. I just remained chill and humorous the whole time. The three of us, Lia, Tiffany, and I walked to a couple other clubs. The whole time I remained touchy, flirty, and, humorous with both girls.

At one of the clubs, I became very close with Lia. I got her to dance after telling me she doesn't do it. There was even one point where I was touching her sexually and all she did was smile. She said at one point smilingly "your touching my tits." She also told me I was crazy multiple times throughout the night. This whole time Tiffany had decided to go a bar next to the club the girl and I was at.

Anyhow, we walked back to school after all that, and Tiffany and Lia presume to talk endlessly like girls do. Lia went off on a rant on how she doesn't like grinding, and other blah blah stuff. I remained quiet most of the way back. We got back to our apartments. We don't live too far apart. I hugged Tiffany bye, and hugged Lia bye.

So, I do not know what I want from Lia, I can't lie. I know there is attraction there. However, I do not think I see her as girlfriend material yet. What should I do to keep it light and fun?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Fly By Night

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Gonna use a very helpful quote:

Judge a woman by her actions and not by her words.
Women say they hate grinding and stuff just to not feel like a s1ut, but that's like a guy saying he hates getting his d1ck sucked. We're all humans here, we all generally like the same things.
 

Mr. Suave

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Uhm, so remind me why you didn't just bang her? You'll soon figure out what you want.
 

Peacebewithyou

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didn't text her at all today. saw her at dinner. we talked a little. then left. saw each other in the library. she sat with me for awhile then left. didn't really talk about last night. should i do so, or just go with the flow?

thanks!
 

blind_one

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Invite her to drinks or get her to your apartment for drink. Escalate = ?????

Profit ?

You gotta push it and see what happends cuz at the moment she is somewhat receptive, so believe she is into you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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